Whether you're wondering which vibrator will tickle your fancy, how to choose the right strap-on for you, or you're just in the market for a brand new experience, our expert-approved selection of the best lesbian sex toys is sure to be of assistance.
Just the other day, I was speaking to a female friend who had recently embarked on her first same-sex romantic dalliance. "It's just orgasm after orgasm, when does it end?" As an out, loud and proud, sex-positive lesbian myself, I'll be the first to admit that lesbian sex (or just sex between women generally) is like a Monopoly board game - you go on until one or both of you are knackered.
The best lesbian sex toys, tried and tested by us
Wands and vibrators
I love this new addition to LELO's extensive range of sex toys. Pleasure, as we all know, isn't confined to between one's legs, and the Dot is fantastic for foreplay, teasing, nipple play, and hitting lesser-known erogenous zones - like the inside of your elbow - just right. Mega plus points for it being fairly quiet when in use, but believe me, there's no controlling how loud the humans using it will be.
There was a huge amount of hype about the Dot as it made a splash with the new Infinite™ Loop Technology, developed exclusively by LELO for the LELO Dot. The smart new technology utilises an elliptical motion - think the infinity symbol or a number eight on its side - instead of the more widely used circular motion.
The toy is made of the ultra-smooth premium silicone synonymous with the brand, which I found made it buttery soft on my skin and easy to clean. Initially, I was a little put off by its pointed appearance, but its soft, bendable tip makes up for it. Of course, as the whole product vibrates, you can share it and it's a marvellous addition to any tribbing (or as some folk call it, 'scissoring') as it fits very comfortably in between two people.
For a full overview, check out our LELO Dot review.
The Dame Fin is designed to fit snuggly around your finger, between your fingers, and then wherever you'd like to put it on your body. I will begin by saying that the vibration on this device, which has three levels, is definitely more subtle than some of the other examples on this list. For some people, that's a dream come true, but if you want a very powerful vibration, please take a look at one of the wand vibrators on our list.
I found the genius of this product was the way it nestled in between my fingers, which meant that I was able to incorporate my fingers while using it. This vibrator makes it feel almost like an extension of your fingers and offers an extra feeling of physical connectedness between the wearer and the receiver, which can sometimes be missing when using toys. The contrasting textures of skin and silky soft silicone, when using this, is a delightful and surprising extra element to using this device and why I count it among the top lesbian sex toys.
It also comes with a detachable tether that, in my opinion, is the only design flaw with this device. One issue I found while using it is that the tether detaches all too easily, which is pretty distracting in the heat of the moment. You're better off removing the strap altogether, really. It works far better.
Speaking of the best wand vibrators, the LELO Smart Wand 2 (Large) is one of my favourites. As a traditional wand vibrator, I found it ideal for stimulation across the whole vulva, rather than just one area. It's great for sharing while tribbing as well as for clitoral stimulation while enjoying G-spot penetration at the same time.
Wide-eyed is probably the way to describe my partner's expression when I pulled this thing out because let's be real - it's massive - and it looks like a microphone. Unlike a microphone, however, it's not speaking into this that brings the noise. 10 vibration patterns bring all the joy one might expect, but this joy isn't for the faint of heart, as this vibrator is one of the most powerful I've ever used. If you're very sensitive or just not that into that, it may be worth looking for a wand with a little less power.
If the size of the LELO Smart Wand 2 is too much for you, there is a medium size available too. It's also sold in three colours, including bright blue, this chic purplish pink, and black, all complete with gold metallic hardware.
For a full overview, take a look at our LELO Smart Wand review.
The Satisfyer Candy Cane is another finger vibrator, but one that works a little differently than the Dame Fin. Rather than it being strapped to your finger, you slide your middle finger through the two prongs and rest the base top part of the toy in your palm. It comes with a range of wonderful vibration patterns sure to bring some va va voom into the bedroom. There are 12 to be precise, and considering the cost of this device, they're remarkably varied and powerful vibration programs.
Despite appearances, I found the Satisfyer Candy Cane easy to use. Holding the toy in this way makes it super versatile and usable all over the body. It's fantastic for use in foreplay, teasing, and alongside other toys. The innovative shape means that accessing the clitoris from multiple angles is an absolute breeze, and it's fun to bring into one of the best oral sex positions, should you so desire.
Unlike many of the other lesbian sex toys on our list, this one can be used internally as well, so if you'd like to explore internal stimulation, the Candy Cane is a good choice. The trick to getting the most out of using the toy in this way, I found, is pressing it gently into the sensitive point around the vaginal opening and incorporating circular motions.
One of the big pros of the Satisfyer range is that their charging cables are universal across all of their rechargeable products, which is an absolute godsend if you've got a larger collection. However, their magnetic chargers can be difficult to keep in place, so you need to ensure you have it 'latched on' when you leave it to charge.
The Eva by Dame is potentially my best vibrator. It's certainly one of the most exciting vibrators I've come across in a while, in theory, although in practice, it won't suit every shape of vulva. But if it does fit yours, it's fabulous. This clitoris-focused device is used totally hands-free, so you or your partner can wear it while teasing and stimulating each other in other ways.
Its clever and super cute design was created to fit snuggly just under your labia. Hands-free toys, while a fantastic idea, are rarely actually 100% effective. Even if a design is super intelligent and mindful of different body shapes, add in all the wonderful wet and sweaty moments in sex, and things can slip from where they ought to be. Call me handsy, but I love getting as involved as possible when sharing an intimate moment with a partner, and I found that using my finger to alter the pressure on this little device was fun. Also, Dame's trademark soft and silky medical-grade silicone is a joy to feel on all parts of your skin, so why not get your fingers involved?
There are three vibration speeds to choose from, which are controlled with a button on the top and are super easy to use. This means that, if it fits you right, it can be an utterly delightful addition to tribbing or even worn neatly under a harness when using a strap-on. If you're looking for something where you'll have a little more control, Dame's Fin is a great alternative option.
Harnesses
Looking for a harness that prioritises comfort? The SpareParts HardWare Joque is the one for you. Of all harnesses on the market, the Joque is regarded as among the best in the business, and for good reason: It feels like a second skin, which means that using is comfortable for the wearer and their partner.
The best feature of this harness, which I believe justifies the price to some degree, is the way it holds the dildo. Rather than being individual straps with an 'O' ring made of silicone in the middle, attached with poppers, the fitting mimics a jockstrap with a heavy-duty polyspandex and mesh material at the front (available in black, red, or purple). It has a secure O-ring and two mini pockets for smaller vibrators for additional stimulation for the wearer.
This O-ring not only makes it easier to keep the dildo or vibrator secure when in use, but it also makes sliding the toy into the harness a lot easier than with others as well. Some things in life are worth paying extra for, and after using the SpareParts HardWare Joque, I'd say a harness is one of them.
Nothing spoils the moment quite like fiddling around readjusting straps for an absolute age, and the great thing about the Joque, I found, is that it's also easy to adjust and fit any size. In my case, as my partner is smaller than me, it means that sharing it isn't beyond the realms of possibility, which can often be the case with some harnesses.
There's no denying that the harness brief has revolutionised the strap-on experience and made the idea of wearing a harness feel a lot less daunting for many. If discretion is a concern of yours (airport security, anyone?), choosing a harness brief is a really good idea.
You slip on these briefs and slip your dildo of choice into the flexible 'O'-ring for strap-on play in an instant. The Lovehoney Harness Briefs are compatible with dildos that have a 4.75-inch circumference, but I found that, as the O-ring has some give, there's a little wriggle room here. It also has what's described as a 'through-and-through 'O'-ring design', meaning there's no material between the ring and the wearer, which makes it ideal as an extra support with a strapless dildo too.
This particular example of a brief-style harness is true to size, I found, which some competing brands have failed at over the years. I was also surprised at the comfort of this product, and it's an added layer of fun that they can be worn all day.
My one critique of the Lovehoney Harness Briefs is that they're just not as robust as a classic jock-style harness, such as the SpareParts HardWare Joque. But as an entry-level harness - or even just one for vacation - these briefs deserve their spot on the list of lesbian sex toys.
Dildos
The Lovehoney BASICS Suction Cup Dildo 6 Inch is one of the best sex toys for beginners at a good price point. If you're just starting to build your collection, a dildo like this is a great fit - for use on its own or with a strap-on harness. At 6 inches, it's standard in size and comfortable for most people, while its little-more-than-lifelike details turn up the internal stimulation.
As well as these details, I found the most useful feature of this Lovehoney BASICS dildo to be the suction cup. Not only does it make for exciting sex in the shower as you can fix the dildo to your bath or shower surface, but the flared end also helps keep the toy secure inside a harness O-ring.
While it's nothing special and is unlikely to be your favorite pick on this extensive list of lesbian sex toys, it certainly gets the job done and is a great starting point. The toy is made from easy-clean PVC and comes in two others, purple or translucent, which is great for those who'd rather avoid realistic-looking toys.
A stainless steel dildo like the Le Wand Bow may look a little clinical, but it's one of my favourite lesbian sex toys. Weighing in at 1.1 lbs (489g), this device is pure genius. The distinctive curved shape allows for deep reach, and as it's a double-ended pleasure tool, how deep is up to your partner. On one end of the angled steel rod, there's a larger, bulbous end that's perfect for targeting your G-spot. The brand behind it, Le Wand, even suggests it as among the best pelvic floor trainers.
There's also a ridge that starts from the centre of the Bow, winding its way to the tip, which provides earth-shattering internal stimulation. The other end is a smaller, tear-drop shape and can also be used for external and internal play.
Keeping hold of this toy can be a struggle in flagrante, but the shape of it, along with its weight, does add a little extra challenge. This toy, and most toys really, calls for lashings of lube, which is slippery at the best of times.
The Strap-On-Me Remote Control Vibrating Strapless Strap-On, much like the Dame Eva, is a great hands-free sex toy. There are three remarkable motors to enjoy: one in the shaft, another in the insertable 'egg', and the third located just above the wearer's clitoris for extra stimulation. All three have three different speeds and three patterns each and are controlled with the same remote, which is simple to use with picture graphics on each button.
Despite the graphics, I did find it took a while to figure out the remote and which part controlled which element of the toy - especially after a glass of wine - but once I understood how it worked, there's no denying it was a great toy to use. For those of us who are a little more sensitive, this product can be used without the vibrations, and it's also available in different sizes.
Often, strapless strap-ons are a great idea in theory, but in reality, they require a mastery of the Kegel exercises to keep the end inside. I didn't find this was the case with the Strap-On-Me Remote Control Vibrating Strapless Strap-On at all - it was easy to keep inside and use. However, if you want to feel secure and comfortable, most people wear them with a harness anyway.
I'm personally a fan of dildos that don't look like penises, so the Strap-On-Me Dildo Plug Balls was an absolute hit for me. Its design, with bulbous balls along the shaft, adds a lot of sensation and creates a feeling of 'popping' in and out with each thrust. It's easy to wear, with a suction cup at its base, much like the Lovehoney BASICS dildo, so it's usable with a harness, manually, or fixed to a flat surface. As there's a broad size range, you're able to pick what suits your own personal taste.
Pleasure educator Poppy Scarlett tells woman&home that this particular product is also a great option for those interested in anal play. She says, "It's a plug and dildo hybrid that can be inserted into the vagina or ass, like you would a plug, freeing up your hands for other activities, or used for hand-thrusting or harness penetration."
So if you're looking for a product that's suited to both, or if interest in pegging a male partner is what's brought you here, then this is the two-for-one toy you need in your collection right now.
"Thanks be to good god that you can wash the cover", should be a review enough for you to buy this immediately, but I suppose if anything, it probably leaves many of you curious to hear more. The Dame Pillo is a foam wedge, made from polyurethane foam with a cotton blend outer shell and nylon inner liner. The idea behind it is to provide support and help you get just the right angle during sex.
It's also designed to enhance and support different positions, making them more comfortable in the process. As Dame put it, "more libido, less lumbago." Think propping one's pelvis up, or leaning over, in one of the best sex positions for G-spot stimulation.
The Dame Pillo is a great one for anyone looking to explore sex positions with back pain, but beware - it's huge. Not only does it come in an enormous tote bag, looking like a baby chair, but the product also takes up a lot of space. I must admit that my partner and I wondered, what's wrong with a regular old pillow for moves like the speed bump sex position? We weren't wondering for long after this genius product was finally unleashed from its tote bag.
I found the firm support and perfect angle that the Dame Pillo provides to be phenomenal. If you're interested in intense G-spot stimulation, this is something to try, especially when paired with The Bow from Le Wand or just good old-fashioned fingers.
Testing the best lesbian sex toys
How we tested the lesbian sex toys
Along with my partner, who also identifies as a lesbian, I personally tried and tested all of the toys listed. We reviewed the pros, cons, strengths, and weaknesses of different products and honestly looked at what to buy and why.
I also consulted the experts, including sex educator Cassandra Corrado and Poppy Scarlett, a pleasure educator, on the top features to look out for. With their advice in mind, we tested each toy with the following criteria in mind:
- Material: "To ensure that your toy lives a long, happy life and is easily sanitised, look for materials like 100% silicone, ABS plastic, borosilicate glass, or stainless steel," says Corrado, who is also Le Wand's ambassador. "All four can be sanitised between use, so they can be shared between partners."
- Use: From classic dildos to harnesses, we tested sex toys with a variety of uses. With so many choices out there, the sexpert recommends talking to your partner/s about how you want to use sex toys together to find one that works for you. "Not all lesbians want to engage in strap-on play," she says. "So, have an open conversation about how you and your partners want to use toys. That will help narrow down your options."
- Battery life: There's nothing worse than when your favourite vibrator starts to give up before you do, so we made sure each of the toys included in this guide had a long-lasting battery after charging.
- Appearance: Some people will want to use a sex toy that resembles a body part in a lifelike way, while others will want to steer well clear. We tested a range to make sure everyone's preference is catered for. "Gone are the days when sex toys exclusively emulate body parts," says Scarlett, who is also the owner of the toy boutique Self & More. "Many people might want to enjoy the experience of wielding a dildo and being able to penetrate a partner without feeling any affinity towards a penis-shaped toy, or desire to actually have a penis."
15/10/25: We updated this buying guide to include further testing details of the LELO Smart Wand 2 and Dame Fin, along with alternative links to buy.
How to choose the best lesbian sex toys for you
- Decide what type of toy you want: If you're still at a loss as to which of these lesbian sex toys to choose, consider which type of toy you're really looking for. If you're looking for clitoral stimulation, a bullet vibrator-style toy will be best. For more internal stimulation, a dildo (with or without the harness) or one of the best rabbit vibrators will likely be a top pick.
- Talk to your partner: If you're planning to use your sex toy with a partner, choosing the best toy will involve having a conversation with them. They may have different desires around penetration and external stimulation, and preferences for additional products like lubricants.
- Budget: Many of the toys on our list stretch above the £70 mark, but there are plenty of lesbian sex toys available for less than this. If you're looking for a simple dildo, there's no need to spend more than £20 on a site like Lovehoney. If you've got a little more to spend and you're looking for a more advanced toy, there's also more out there.
- Delivery: How quickly do you want your sex toy? If you're off for a sexy weekend away in the next few weeks, you'll need it sooner rather than later. In this case, it may be better to opt for a retailer like Lovehoney or Amazon, which prioritises speedy delivery. If you can wait, you may be able to get a better deal directly from the retailer.
How to choose a strap on
Despite the hype, not all lesbians are into using strap-ons during sex. That's not so shocking when you consider the slim percentage who actually orgasm from penetrative sex without external stimulation. A study from Indiana University even found that only about 18% of women reported being able to climax during intercourse from vaginal penetration alone.
Of course, it's worth mentioning that you may be reading this with the intention of enjoying it with a male-identifying partner. Whatever brings you here, welcome. Although I can't speak to the intricacies of pegging, the rules regarding making this purchase are largely the same. This is an investment, and if you want something hardwearing, convenient, and comfortable, you're going to have to spend.
Annabelle Knight is a couples counsellor and life coach with qualifications in psychotherapy. As she's also the resident sex and love expert for online retailer Lovehoney, we spoke to her about where to begin picking out a strap-on for you. Here's her guide on different styles, their merits, and what you should keep in mind.
Harness styles
- Jock style harness: Similar to a jockstrap, this one has two straps that run between the legs of the wearer, coming out on either side of the butt cheeks. The style provides stability to the harness and keeps the dildo snugly in place against the body, but it can be tricky to put on and prevents access to vaginal play.
- Thong or G-string style harness: As you can imagine, this takes the form of a G-string, with a single strap running between the legs. This type of harness is not as secure as the jock, but it is easier to put on and grants access to the vagina and butt for stimulation without having to remove it.
- Harness briefs: Also known as panty-style, these literally take the form of a pair of briefs, with a built-in 'O'-ring (where you attach the dildo). These are probably the most comfortable of the three, but they often come in limited sizes.
Choosing right dildo for your harness
- Check your harness's attachment type: This is to make sure it really fits. The majority of harnesses have built-in 'O'-rings that you fit the base of the dildo into. If the O-ring is built in, then it will only fit a certain type of dildo. If the 'O'-ring is removable, then you can use a range of different types of dildos as long as you have the ring to go with it. There are also lock-on systems, which only fit a very specific type of dildo, so ensure that you are okay with this when purchasing the harness.
- Consider size/shape: Everyone will have a different preference, so it is a good idea to experiment with the dildo and without the strap-on harness in the first instance, to find the right fit and size. Even so, you will probably want to start off small if you are a beginner, as using a strap-on is different from just using a dildo on its own.
- Experiment: You can experiment with the type of dildo and harness. For example, some allow you to insert a bullet for extra vibrations and stimulation.
