The chores that cause the most arguments between couples are finally revealed

These household habits often cause frustration in relationships

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Chores are often the cause of household arguments between couples and this year is no exception. More couples have taken the momentous step towards moving in together in 2020. Lockdowns and regional restrictions across the country might have seen some people co-habit earlier than they would’ve usually have done in a relationship. 

And with the pressure the current situation puts on relationships, it’s perhaps natural to think that arguments between cohabiting partners have risen too. 

Now bathroom and shower experts at ShowersToYou have looked into exactly what household chores cause the most arguments between couples. 

The answers most might just surprise you, but do any of these cause friction in your households? 

What 5 chores are most likely to cause arguments between couples?

  • Doing the dishes
  • Taking out the rubbish
  • Cleaning the kitchen
  • Cleaning the bathroom
  • Doing laundry 

Whilst doing the dishes is unlikely to be anyone’s favourite household chore, it might surprise some to learn that this is the most likely to cause arguments according to the research. 

A staggering 57% of couples admitted getting into a spat over it and kitchen-focused chores seem to incite arguments frequently, with taking out the rubbish and cleaning the kitchen coming in second and third place. 

Meanwhile cleaning the bathroom and doing laundry rounded off the 5 chores that are most likely to cause arguments between couples

Which chores are the least likely to cause arguments?

Out of those surveyed, only 9% consider dusting to be a chore that causes couples to argue. This ranked the least out of all household chores, though ironing, vacuuming and changing or making the bed also ranked low on the list of argument-provoking chores. 

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Why are chores important?

The importance of maintaining a clean and tidy household and regularly carrying out chores is clear. Though the research suggests that chores could be important for other reasons too. 

Of those respondents who are no longer in relationships, 15% admitted that quarrelling over household chores directly contributed to the breakdown of their relationships. An even more concerning 90% of couples revealed that they will spend up to a whole hour arguing with their significant others over chores. 

When it comes to the reasoning behind these arguments, almost half suggested that the arguments are initiated by a feeling that a certain chore has not been completed properly. But that’s not the only reason as 40% stated that a lack of acknowledgement or appraisal for carrying out chores was a large factor in sparking arguments. 

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All this suggests that it’s important to complete household chores to maintain a sense of calm in your relationship, as well as to ensure you have a clean and tidy home.

Now with Christmas approaching, new restrictions are set to come into effect between 23 and 27 December. With up to three households allowed to form a Christmas bubble, couples may soon find themselves entertaining friends or relatives over the festive season - likely meaning additional washing up and cleaning.

If you remember not to leave chores until the last minute, you can relax and enjoy Christmas with your significant other.

Emma is a Senior Lifestyle Writer with five years experience working in digital publishing, ranging from book publishing to magazines. She currently looks after all things Lifestyle for Woman&Home, GoodToKnow and My Imperfect Life.

Before she joined Future Publishing, Emma graduated from the University of Warwick with a Bachelor of Arts degree in English and Comparative Literary Studies. After leaving education, she started out her publishing career in the world of books, working as a Publisher for an independent digital publisher specializing in back-list and debut commercial fiction novels. With a huge book list and a passion for bringing the best stories to the broadest audience possible, Emma filled her spare time with reading the latest best-sellers and catching up on hit adaptations.

In 2017 she joined TI Media as a fiction writing coordinator on Woman’s Weekly and Woman’s Weekly Fiction as part of the features team. From here, she used her love of books, working to bring short stories to our dedicated readers and began writing for the books pages of Woman, Woman’s Own and Woman&Home, as well as online features ranging from genre round-ups to travel pieces for 

After honing her skills, Emma branched out online in 2020 when Future gave her the opportunity to focus on digital-first. When she’s not writing about the next big lifestyle trend, she enjoys cooking, long walks and watching as many crime dramas as she can!