How to master coital alignment technique—the Sex/Life position everyone is talking about

A sex expert has explained to us what coital alignment technique is and how to do it safely

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The coital alignment technique was recently featured on Netflix's hit new show Sex/Life and many of us have been very confused about what exactly it is.

Sex/Life, Netflix's newest raunchy drama had many fans googling the term (in fact, searches were up 100% worldwide in the last 24 hours) after the main character enjoyed this female-pleasure-orientated position with both her husband and ex-boyfriend in the show. It's a complicated love triangle and sexual fantasy, to say the least. 

The technique was portrayed extremely favorably when main character Billie reminisced about the 'best sex of her life' with her handsome ex Brad. And fans have taken to Twitter to ask, what exactly is this sexual sorcery? 

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To find out more, we asked Isabelle Uren, a sex expert from Bed Bible about how the coital alignment technique works and how to try it at home.

So if your best vibrator isn't quite up to scratch, turn to your partner, lover, or favorite sex toy to see if this technique works for you.

What is the coital alignment technique?

The coital alignment technique (CAT) is a sex position where the clitoris is aligned with the penis or vibrator in a position that prioritizes female pleasure. It's worth noting that while the technique traditionally requires penetrative penis-in-vagina sex, that's not to say the position won't work with a vibrator, strap-on, or another sex toy if that's your preference. To facilitate the rocking action the CAT requires, you might want to check out our guide to the best lube to ease the motion.

"Let's firstly take a moment to appreciate TV shows that are spotlighting female sexual pleasure!" our sex expert said of Sex/Life's spotlight on CAT. "The coital alignment technique was established by psychotherapist Edward Eichel and used in a research study to help people with vulvas achieve more orgasms and increase the rate of simultaneous orgasms, by increasing clitoral stimulation during sex. 

"It's no secret that the clitoris holds the key to orgasm for many people with vulvas, and while many sex toys put the clitoris in the spotlight, most penetrative sex positions focus on internal stimulation." While female masturbation with toys focuses on female pleasure, there's no reason your orgasm shouldn't be prioritized when having sex with a partner, too. This is where the CAT comes in. Rather than stimulating inside the vulva, the CAT focuses purely on clitoral stimulation with a rocking motion for more intense pleasure. 

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How do you do the coital alignment technique? 

  • Get into the missionary position, but have your partner (or vibrator) positioned a little higher than usual
  • Rather than thrusting in and out, ask your partner to grind their pelvis upwards in a rocking motion (if using a vibrator, follow the same action with your toy)
  • Keep going and enjoy the sensation of rocking against your clitoris, until you climax

"The good news is if you know the missionary position, you are halfway there!" Isabelle explains. The clitoral alignment technique requires a slight gear change from missionary, with hopefully mid-blowing results. It's a great one to try for those who are wondering how to orgasm from missionary if it doesn't come so easily. "The partner receiving the clitoral stimulation lies on their back, and the penetrating partner takes the on-top position, in between their partner's legs.

"Rather than entering their partner fully, the penetrating partner moves their hips further up their partner's body. The exact position will vary from person to person, but, most importantly, the penis or dildo should point downwards, with the head entering the vagina and the lower part of the shaft resting on top of the receiving partner's clitoris. 

"The key to unlocking the orgasmic potential of this position is the grinding or rocking action. Adding in some of your favorite lubrication in this position is an absolute must to help the shaft slide smoothly over the clitoris."

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What makes the coital alignment technique so pleasurable?

The CAT is so popular thanks to its hands-free nature, as our expert explains. "Clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex often requires the use of a hand, or sex toy, of your choice. While that is a fantastic way to get the stimulation you want, sometimes you want to be in the moment, with your hands free to roam, and without anything between you or your partner. This is where the coital alignment technique really shines. 

"The CAT allows for stimulation of both the vagina and the upper area of the vulva, including the clitoral glans, clitoral hood, and labia minora, all of which are dense with excitable nerve endings. The closeness and slower pace also enhance the intimacy of the moment, which can be arousing for both partners."

How to master the clitoral alignment technique, according to a sex expert 

It can take a bit of practice to find the right angle and get the rocking motion down, but here are some extra tips that can help:

  • Don't dive straight in. This is where, in the rabbit vibrators vs clitoral stimulators debate, clitoral stimulators come into their own. Make sure you are aroused by starting with some stimulation—the excitement will encourage blood flow, enlarge your clitoris, and enhance the sensations
  • If you can't get the right angle, try using a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to tilt their pubic bone upwards slightly and give better access to their clitoris
  • Communicate honestly with your partner—tell them what feels good and what doesn't
  • Like in tantric sex, focus on enjoying the moment and sensations, and don't over-focus on having an orgasm. Yes, orgasms are great but so are all the sensations along the way!

It's also important to remember that not all positions work for everyone, and if this doesn't work for you, don't worry—there are plenty of other great positions to explore!