30 of the best self-help books for self-improvement and personal development
The best self-help books can help you address sticking points in your life and help you to work out what it is you really want for a more positive future
Having access to the best self-help books has never been more important. With everything happening around the world at the moment, taking care of ourselves is more vital than ever. There’s never been a better time to dive into non-fiction that helps you feel grounded and supported.
It is never too late to press reset and reevaluate our lives—whether you want to explore meditation, achieve your goals, build self-compassion, create more time for things you love, help ease anxiety, deal with stress or understand your personal style of attachment.
The best self-help books will help to put you on the path towards a brighter, more self-aware year. Sure, getting into self-help books can feel like a switch of gear for readers more attuned to reading the best fiction books, but taking the time to read something that can really benefit your mental wellbeing is a self-care act your future self will thank you for.
Filled with the latest research and compelling first-person accounts, these gripping reads expertly chosen by Books Editors represent some of the best books of 2022 and can help you achieve your goals and become a better version of yourself.
The best self-help books to read in 2022
Whether you prefer to read on one of the best eReaders or pick up a paper copy, there's a book for every qualm in our round-up.
There are options from notable self-help authors including Mel Robbins and Oliver Burkeman, as well as choices from lesser-known writers, ranging from an exploration of the relationship between mind and body, to the key to being more productive.
1. The High-Five Habit by Mel Robbins
If you struggle with self-doubt, have found yourself becoming a glass-half-empty person over the years, or often feel jealous of other people’s success, then this could be the book for you. When its author, Mel Robbins, found herself struggling to feel good about much in her life, she decided to take back control and began high fiving herself in the mirror every morning. It sounds simple, but there is a science behind the habit—more of which is explained in detail throughout the book—promising to teach you how to improve your self-belief, productivity, happiness, and confidence levels.
Read it because: It will help you to make simple yet profound changes to your outlook and behavior – and keep you laughing along the way.
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A line we love: “When you change how you see yourself and treat yourself, a whole new possibility opens up for your future self.”
2. Atomic Habits by James Clear
Staying in the theme of developing positive new habits, this globally bestselling self-help book nudges things up a gear, offering readers practical tips on how to improve all areas of their lives. Rather than expecting radical changes to be made overnight, the advice instead is to aim for a one percent step-up per day, as you’re helped to break the bad habits that are holding you back from achieving your full potential and replacing them with new ones. What marks this personal improvement manual out from the others is its deceptively simple and easy-to-follow style, which works well precisely because it doesn’t try to overburden the reader.
Read it because: Developing new and positive habits will help you overcome the things holding you back from being happy.
A line we love: “Some people spend their entire lives waiting for the time to be right to make an improvement.”
3. When The Body Says No by Dr. Gabor Maté
How often have you heard someone refer to a person ‘dying of a broken heart’ and thought it must be nothing more than a manner of speech? Because that’d be impossible, wouldn’t it? In this fascinating self-help guide, Dr. Gabor Maté explores the link between the mind and body, bringing to light his clinical research into the role that stress and emotions play in diseases such as cancer, arthritis, diabetes, heart disease, multiple sclerosis, and irritable bowel syndrome. He also looks at famous case studies, such as Ronald Reagan (who had Alzheimer’s) and Betty Ford (breast cancer), as well as revealing his ‘Seven A’s Of Healing’, to help those who may be suffering. An utterly fascinating and insightful read.
Read it because: To understand the strain that stress places our bodies under is the first step towards making sure it doesn’t continue to do us harm.
A line we love: “Shame is the deepest of the ‘negative emotions’, a feeling we will do almost anything to avoid. Unfortunately, our abiding fear of shame impairs our ability to see reality.”
4. The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein
If you’re feeling at sea, this is the book for you. Gabrielle Bernstein is a New York Times best-selling author and spiritual guru, who speaks internationally about transforming fear into faith and overcoming addiction problems. The Universe Has Your Back is a comforting read for anyone finding life a little tough right now—the book focuses on how to create safety in the face of uncertainty and trust in the power of the universe, with special techniques, guided visualizations, and meditation exercises to try at home.
Read it because: You may be surprised to discover what it is that is blocking you from feeling content, and how by making just a few small changes, you can remove them.
A line we love: “Accept the purpose of love, and your life will radically change this instant.”
5. Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
The average person will spend approximately four thousand weeks on the planet, which feels like a ludicrously short amount of time—especially when you consider how many of those precious moments we essentially end up wasting. The problem, argues Oliver Burkeman, is that we have become obsessed with our ever-lengthening to-do lists and message inboxes, and are cracking under the pressure of our depleted attention spans. Drawing on insights from philosophers both ancient and modern as well as psychologists and spiritual guides, the author makes a convincing case for letting go of what we think is important and instead choosing a path towards a more balanced life through the realignment of our relationship with time.
Read it because: It will instruct you on how to switch off the nagging demands of the future and focus instead on the present moment.
A line we love: “The problem with trying to make time for everything that feels important – or just for enough of what feels important – is that you definitely never will.”
6. The 5am Club by Robin Sharma
Hailed as life-changing by many a critic, The 5am Club’s central message feels like a deceptively simple one—i.e., get out of bed earlier—but there is a whole philosophy behind it that deserves to be heard. Waking up before much of the rest of the world can provide you with a much-needed time out from all the noise, distraction, and pressure of modern life, and as you learn through reading, it’s a practice adopted by many business titans and talents worldwide. The great thing about this book is that leadership expert Robin Sharma doesn’t stop at encouraging an earlier alarm, he also provides a formula for waking up inspired and energized and a step-by-step method to making the most of this quietest part of the day.
Read it because: If you want to make positive changes to your life but require structure in which to do so, this book will give you the tools you need to create that framework.
A line we love: “You need to remember that your excuses are seducers, your fears are liars, and your doubts are thieves.”
7. You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
This is about as iconic as self-help books get. Louise Hay was an American motivational author and speaker, who founded Hay House publishing house. Her impact has been so large that she is considered by many to be the founder of the self-help movement in the States. You Can Heal Your Life, first published in 1984, is a multi- million-copy bestselling book on self-healing, which guides readers on how to change their negative thought processes to bring about positive change in their lives. The book—one of the best self-help books around—includes daily affirmations to incorporate into your life, and goes into depth on the relationship between the mind and body, showing the impact of thoughts on our health and wellbeing.
Read it because: When it comes to self-help books, this is perhaps the most iconic.
A line we love: “Think thoughts that make you happy. Do things that make you feel good. Be with people who make you feel good. Eat things that make your body feel good. Go at a pace that makes you feel good.”
8. Good Vibes, Good Life by Vex King
A popular book club book, this number #1 Sunday Times bestseller by influencer and self-help guru Vex King has sold over 500k copies. And it's a must-read for anyone who needs a boost of positivity and self-love in their lives. King believes that self-love is the key to unlocking your greatness—the book highlights how to practice self-care, overcome toxic energy and make your wellbeing a priority. King describes the incredible challenges he has overcome in the book and gives personal insights into how you can overcome fear and ‘flow’ with the Universe. Not one if you’re not a fan of Instagram-worthy quotes and sound bites though.
Read it because: The things you think you desire to be happy may be leading you down the wrong path.
A line we love: “The illusion of fear is the only limitation we have.”
9. You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero
If you’re looking for no-nonsense advice on how to change your life, then look no further than Jen Sincero’s iconic self-help book. Full of bitesize advice and anecdotes, the book is designed to inspire and motivate you to live your best life, without feeling overwhelmed. It’s a refreshing reading for anyone that’s bored of the conventional self-help book, as Jen Sincero is not your traditional success coach— expect hilarious stories, surprising wisdom and the occasional swear word. You’ll come away from this book with a greater sense of purpose, clarity of what you want from your life, and better boundaries in place.
Read it because: Humans have evolved to become lazy – this book will teach you how to push back against the constraints placed upon us by the deep-rooted compulsion to do as little as possible.
A line we love: “You’re on a journey with no defined beginning, middle or end. There are no wrong twists and turns. There is just being. And your job is to be as you as you can be. This is why you’re here. To shy away from who you truly are would leave the world you-less. You are the only you there is and ever will be.”
10. Think Like a Monk by Jay Shetty
Entrepreneur and internet personality Jay Shetty draws on his time as a monk in the Vedic tradition in this uplifting book about success and potential. Taking inspiration from ancient wisdom and his learnings in the ashram, Shetty shows how ancient traditions can be used today to overcome negative thoughts and lead a more fulfilled life. Packed full of advice and practical exercises you can try, the book is designed to reduce stress, improve your relationships, and increase self-discipline. Shetty believes there’s a real place for living (a bit) like a monk in all our lives—and this book will show you how.
Read it because: Much of Jay Shetty’s advice is based on his own experiences, while the ancient wisdom he imparts is genuinely fascinating.
A line we love: “When we tune out the opinions, expectations, and obligations of the world around us, we begin to hear ourselves.”
11. Attached by Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
One of 2021's best self-help books, Attached is described as ‘a groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship’ by John Gray PhD—and we tend to agree. Attached is an insightful look into the science behind love, and explores how attachment theory, the most advanced relationship science that exists, can show up differently in people’s lives. Through the book, you’ll come to understand your own personal attachment style (anxious, avoidant, or secure), which can, in turn, help you to become a better, more self-aware individual in relationships. This one will really help you to understand what you personally need from a romantic partner—or what your partner needs from you.
Read it because: To thrive in a romantic relationship, you must first understand what it is you need from a significant other, and what you can offer them.
A line we love: “When our partner acts as our secure base and emotional anchor, we derive strength and encouragement to go out into the world and make the most of ourselves. He or she is there to help us become the best person we can be, as we are for them.”
12. The Chimp Paradox by Professor Steve Peters
If you’re someone that finds you’re often sabotaging your own happiness, then this book is for you. The Chimp Paradox is a mind management model, which claims to help you become a more happy, confident, and successful person. Its author, Professor Steve Peters, will walk you through how your mind works, how to manage your thought patterns and emotional state, and, ultimately, become the best version of yourself. It’s a big claim—but with easy-to-follow exercises and powerful insights, this book is a multi-million copy bestseller for a reason.
Read it because: Learning to distinguish your rational “human” thoughts from your emotional “chimpish” responses will help you to make better decisions and achieve a greater understanding of your behavior.
A line we love: “Don’t be disheartened if you have setbacks; instead learn from them and always celebrate any successes. Remember: you always have a choice.”
13. Self Love and Spiritual Alchemy by Dani Watson
Dani Watson is a self-love and law of attraction coach, who helps individuals get clear on what they really want, ditch limiting beliefs, and stop self-sabotage to live a life that is full of purpose and fulfilment. In her book, Self Love and Spiritual Alchemy, she explains how to raise your 'vibration' to bring in more joy, abundance, and prosperity into your life, and how to overcome negative thought patterns or limiting beliefs. Drawing on her own personal experience of overcoming debt, heartbreak, and anxiety, Dani shares how she changed her life for the better—and how you can too.
Read it because: You can never be too encouraged in the practice of self-love, as it unlocks so much of what holds us back from true happiness.
A line we love: “True Self Love is about releasing negative energy, forgiving the past, and raising your vibration so that you feel amazing from the inside.”
14. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
A spiritual teacher and author admired by Oprah Winfrey, Tolle suggests that we shouldn't even believe in problems. He says, "Problems are mind-made. Ultimately, it's about realizing there are no problems. Only situations - to be dealt with now, or left alone and accepted as part of the present moment until they change or can be dealt with. Ask yourself what "problem" you have right now, not next year, tomorrow, or five minutes from now. You might be carrying in your mind the insane burden of 100 things you will or may have to do in the future, instead of focusing your attention on the one thing you can do now. Make the decision to create no more problems.
Read it because: Enlightenment is not simply for those in touch with their more spiritual side, it can be reached by everyone.
A line we love: “Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life.”
15. Self Care for the Real World by Nadia Narain
A top #10 bestseller, Self Care for the Real World is a self-help book for people who don’t really ‘do’ self-help. It’s a highly practical, easy-to-read, and accessible book on how to incorporate self-care into our everyday lives with small, achievable daily actions. The book focuses on how to understand what self-care looks like to you (as it’s different for everyone!) and how you can incorporate it into your routine, even when you don’t feel like you have the time. The perfect self-care book for busy people! One of the best health books out there right now.
Read it because: It sounds simple yet treating ourselves like a person we care about does not always come naturally. Plus, Kate Moss is a big fan – the model said she wanted to give this book to everyone she knows.
A line we love: “Learning self-care is like building your own lifeboat, plank by plank. Once you’ve got your boat, you’ll still be rocked by the same waves, but you’ll have a feeling of safety, and stability that means you can pick other people up on your way.”
16. The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
The Secret is perhaps one of the first—and most famous—self-help books and for good reason. With wisdom and insight from modern-day teachers, The Secret essentially examines the power of manifestation—the benefits, how to do it, and how it has changed some people's lives. You'll hear from people from all walks of life about how the practice has brought them health, wealth, and happiness. So why not give it a go? There's a reason it's one of the best self-help books of all time.
Read it because: Learning to let go of the past is the first step towards achieving the future that you want and deserve.
A line we love: “Your life is in your hands. No matter where you are now, no matter what has happened in your life, you can begin to consciously choose your thoughts, and you can change your life. There is no such thing as a hopeless situation. Every single circumstance of your life can change.”
17. Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
Released in 2015, Elizabeth Gilbert's Big Magic has become a cult success story within the self-help books arena, helping readers across the world to embrace their creativity. In it, the author shares stories from her own life as well as wisdom from friends and people who have inspired her, to challenge the reader to embrace the unknown during the creative process. But never fear—it's not just a book for artists. It's there for you if you're struggling at work or simply desperate for a creative outlet too. Use this book to help you unleash your true self without fear of judgment or fear of anything else.
Read it because: Reaching your full potential, whether that is creatively or not, begins with self-belief.
A line we love: “It seems to me that the less I fight my fear, the less it fights back. If I can relax, fear relaxes, too.”
18. The Power Of Habit by Charles Duhigg
Also one of our best psychology book picks, Duhigg argues that good intentions only take us so far when it comes to breaking bad habits. So rather than providing guidelines for how to overcome our bad habits, Duhigg investigates suggestions for how we can reprogramme our minds towards better habits. Looking at the environmental cues that encourage our worst tendencies, Duhigg gives a compelling insight into the world of subconscious behavior. This is no homespun remedy, Duhigg's observations have real, scientific gravitas, and could really help you finally achieve that goal.
Read it because: There is a grounding of science behind the advice offered that lends it authenticity, and the instruction towards developing willpower is straightforward to follow.
A line we love: “Change might not be fast, and it isn’t always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped.”
19. 12 Rules For Life by Jordan B Peterson
Eschewing the many self-help books that strive to make the path through life and all its many bumps and turns less arduous, this multimillion-copy bestseller challenges convention by encouraging us to not only face our darkest moments and experiences but to step inside them, pick them apart and analyze them. It is only by having the courage to embrace the bad alongside the good, the grief alongside the love, and the failure alongside the success, that we can truly learn how to grow as individuals, and therefore take the path towards a more fulfilling life. Author Jordan B Peterson doesn’t just want to heal the world, he wants us to be equipped with the tools we need to make it a better place for ourselves and others.
Read it because: With over 1 million subscribers to his YouTube channel, where he delivers unflinchingly honest lectures about human psychology, Jordan B Peterson is renowned for good reason. In simple terms, believe the hype.
A line we love: “You must determine where you are going in your life because you cannot get there unless you move in that direction. Random wandering will not move you forward.”
20. Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke
Can you really have too much of a good thing? According to psychiatrist and author Dr. Anna Lembke, the answer is a very definite yes. With personal technology being as it is and those in Western society living with ready access to all manner of high-dopamine pursuits, such as eating and drinking to excess, gambling, shopping, texting, sexting, scrolling, and Netflix-ing, it has never been easier to compulsively overdose the mind and body. However, as this book argues, there is neuroscientific evidence that suggests this relentless craving for perceived pleasure can lead directly to pain. Cutting through the science to deliver her learned wisdom in nuggets of metaphor and anecdote, Dr. Lembke makes a strong case for why putting down our phones could make us happier, and how we can make the joy we feel more potent.
Read it because: Falling into the trap of pleasure-seeking has never been easier to do, and it could be the reason you’re struggling in other facets of your life.
A line we love: “I urge you to find a way to immerse yourself fully in the life that you've been given. To stop running from whatever you're trying to escape, and instead to stop, and turn, and face whatever it is.”
21. Peak Mind by Dr. Amishi Ja
Concentration as a life skill is often overlooked. Most of us nowadays are multitasking heroes, listening to a podcast whilst doing the ironing, watching the news at the same time as scrolling through Facebook or emailing one person while on a call to another. But the inevitable side-effect of this is a perpetual feeling that you are not doing anything as thoroughly as you perhaps should—how can you be if you’re never present in one moment? As neuroscientist Dr. Amishi Ja explains, our brains, although built to be distractible, are also hugely powerful when attention is fully harnessed. By teaching exercises that require just 12 minutes of your day, she pledges to help us find focus, declutter our minds, and experience a more rewarding life.
Read it because: No matter how chaotic your schedule, 12 minutes is an achievable segment of time to set aside each day – and doing so may just change your life.
A line we love: “A peak mind is not one in which we never experience fear, grief, sadness, uncertainty, or even ambiguity about a situation, but training the mind so that we can maneuver through those difficult circumstances with more ease instead of working against ourselves.”
22. Your One Wild And Precious Life by Dr. Maureen Gaffney
Subtitled: ‘an inspiring guide to becoming your best self at any age’, this deeply insightful and profound book examines how to make every age your best age. By going through the life stages, from infancy right through to retirement and beyond, leading psychologist Dr. Maureen Gaffney unpicks the myths around so-called ‘best’ eras and explains why neither time nor choices must come with a limit. Precious moments can just as easily be created as looked back upon with fondness, and just because you ‘didn’t get around’ to exploring the world, learning a new language, or training in a new skill in your middle life, does not mean you can’t do so now. Empowering and meaningful, this is one self-help book that is guaranteed to open doorways into a richer and more exciting future.
Read it because: It will show you how to live your best life at any and every age.
A line we love: “Grit is the mix of effort, determination, hard graft, and stamina that's necessary to keep going in the face of frustrations, setbacks, and failure. Lowest in your twenties, it rises gradually in young adulthood and middle age and reaches its peak in your sixties.”
23. Burnout: Solve Your Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
There is a big gap between what it’s really like to be a woman and what women are expected to be—and it is this that leads most often to burnout. Because we exhaust both our mental and physical selves trying to bridge that very gap. How can we be expected to love our bodies when we’re assaulted by messages telling us to shape, tone, and reduce it? How can we strive to smash through the glass ceiling when we’re trying to give 110 percent not just at work, but with our families and relationships as well? Breaking the cycle is a vital place to start, and this book contains steps as to how, including advice on returning the body to a ‘relaxed’ state, how to love your body (for real), and why it’s beneficial to befriend your inner critic. Astute and infinitely wise.
Read it because: Women encounter burnout differently from men, and it’s important that we choose a self-help book tailored to our own experience.
A line we love: “Relax your belly. It’s supposed to be round. The Bikini Industrial Complex has been gaslighting you.”
24. Awaken Your Power Within by Gerry Hussey
Ever felt you’re not living your best life but not sure how to make it better? Hussey—AKA The Soul Coach—walks you through ways to reflect on your life and realise your potential. It's a book of two halves. The first half focuses on encouraging you to search your soul and acknowledge what may be limiting you, while the second gently guides you towards opening your mind to new possibilities.
Read it because: Along the way, there are regular Take a Moment exercises—mediations, affirmations and prompts to help you find the answers to questions you may not even realize you needed to ask yourself.
A line we love: Sometimes, says Hussey, we need to change the record to hear a new song.
25. I May Be Wrong by Bjorn Natthiko Lindeblad
Written with humility, charm, and wit by a man who spent 17 years as a Buddhist forest monk and who now has an incurable illness, there is not only gentle wisdom in these pages, but it’s a great read, too. Facing death has given him a clarity about what matters in life and he shares this wisdom with his readers. Each chapter describes scenes from his life and valuable lessons he has learned, that will encourage you to let go of the small stuff, accept the things you cannot control and open your heart and mind to a more happy and peaceful life.
Read it because: Every now and then a self-help book comes along that genuinely stays with you—and this is one such book.
26. The Little Book of Manifestation by Astrid Carvel
There's been a buzz around manifestation for some time now but if you’re late to the party and want to know more about what’s giving this spiritual wellness trend traction, look no further than this book. Based on the law of attraction, the book explores the idea that you can use the power of positive thinking and visualizations to get what you want from life—be that a dream job, a life partner, better finances, or more joy.
Read it because: If you want to know more about positive affirmations and how to ask the universe to manifest your aspirations, this read is neatly set up with info and practical actions you can take to start realizing your dreams.
27. You Are Enough by Cheryl Rickman
Here’s a little gem of a book for anyone who’s feeling like they don’t measure up—and we all do sometimes. Positive psychology practitioner Rickman gently and clearly reminds us to take the pressure off our need to meet others and our own expectations and to instead ‘turn up the volume on acceptance, balance and compassion’.
And we reckon it would make a good gift that keeps on giving for a friend who needs to reframe their worth too.
Read it because: It’s packed with sensible, easy-to-digest guidance and advice to help you show yourself some love.
28. You’re Not Broken: Break Free from Trauma and Reclaim your Life by Dr. Sarah Woodhouse
You may think of trauma as severe and life-threatening events, but research psychologist Dr. Woodhouse explains that subtler experiences can create traumatic reactions that affect our present, by trapping us in cycles of dysfunctional behaviours, negative thoughts and difficult feelings.
Written in an approachable and, conversational style, Dr Woodhouse carefully explains what trauma is, how it affects various aspects of our lives, and suggests practical ways to break free.
Read it because: The book is backed by research from the Medical Research Council but presents all of the information clearly, in a way that is easy to understand and process.
A line we love: Drawing on her own experience of denying trauma, Dr Woodhouse points out, ‘the greater the resistance, the greater the transformation’.
29. 52 Ways to Walk by Annabel Streets
It's a little bit of an alternative choice for our best self-help books list—but when you consider the notions that walking calms our minds, lifts our spirits, and strengthens our bodies for free, well… you have to give this book its due. Sometimes the answer to helping lift a low mood or sorting out a problem can be as simple as putting a foot out the door. Annabel Streets has amassed fascinating research on the mental health benefits of walking, and combined it with lots of inspiration that will make walking your new go-to therapy.
Read it because: Did you know that walking backwards can help unlock memories? Of course, you didn’t—and that’s why this should be on your bookshelf.
30. Are You Listening? By Jenny Rogers
One of the UK’s leading executive coaches, Rogers shares 20 stories drawn from experience that reveal the human dilemmas at the heart of many successful people’s lives. She reveals their limitations, doubts, and fears and shows how their personal lives play out at work. There is candid and authoritative commentary throughout, with reminders such as you are the only one really running your career.
Read it because: If you’re stuck in a work rut and fascinated to know more about how career coaching works, this book will give you a fly-on-the-wall insight.
Angelica Malin is a journalist, entrepreneur, and founder and Editor-in-Chief of About Time magazine. She has written a book (her first) called She Made It, a toolkit for female founders in the digital age, which was published by Kogan Page in January 2021. Angelica was shortlisted for BSME’s Editors’ Editor of the Year and has featured in campaigns for brands such as NatWest, Asto and Courier Media. She also helps aspiring entrepreneurs through her platform, events and #SheStartedIt podcast.
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