Marian Keyes has some solid advice for people who are stuck in a rut – and it may just be wise words you need today.
We can all shy away from difficult periods and choices in our lives, but according to Marian Keyes, we need to face our fears head on, even if we feel “terrified” to do so.
The author, 56, whose humorous, heartfelt writing and vast collection of bestselling novels have cemented her as one of the UK’s most-loved literary stars, shared a photograph on Instagram with an important message.
Alongside the photo of a beautifully illustrated Frida Kahlo notebook, she wrote, ‘This BEAUTIFUL Frida notebook was given to me on Wednesday by my beloved friend Roisin Ingle, for ‘ideas for my new book’. So! I’ve made a start!
‘I’ve a couple of ideas knocking around but with both of them I’m frightened that I’m not talented or brave enough to carry them off. This is NOT a transparent plea for praise! I simply want to talk about limitations.
‘No-one can know their limitations until they hit them - and at that point they might be months deep in a project, 93% of the way up a mountain, 12 years into a marriage. And THEN what happens?
‘A salvage operation is what happens. SOMETIMES a bodge job can pull things together, making the outcome acceptable if not ideal. Sometimes waiting things out gives unexpected insight, energy, a fresh perspective. And sometimes we’ve no choice but to give up on it: to fail. Which we - at least I - am terrified by.
‘But the only way to avoid failure is to play it safe and I don’t want to do that either. So! I’m going to *try* to write the daunting, interesting book! Oh yes, I’m all gung-ho right now, showing off on Instagram, pretending I’m wise, but it will be a challenge every new day. We’ll see what unfolds…’
Marian has been previously very open about her mental health struggles, revealing that in 2010, while writing The Mystery of Mercy Close, Marian found herself battling depression so severe that she felt as if she was “living in hell”.
After sharing her experience online with fans, Marian’s candid comments on mental health went viral, much to the author’s surprise.
“It was a very sudden descent into the most horrific state of mind. I knew I couldn’t write my newsletter because I was in such a state of extreme fear was how it mostly got me,” she explained to the Irish Sun.
"I wrote a three line thing on my website saying ‘I’m suffering from a bout of depression, I can’t sleep and I can’t eat and I’ll be back with you soon’.
“It blew up, this huge thing. I’m obviously naive as I didn’t think anyone would be bothered. The story was due to be on the six o’clock news. The idea it would be on the news seemed insane.”
It was during this time that Marian faced her biggest professional challenge; to continue writing a novel when her debilitating depression made even getting out of bed in the morning a challenge.
“I have so many version of this book [The Mystery of Mercy Close] because I had a bad bout of mental health that went on when I was writing it,” she said.
“I had gaps that went on for months when I wrote nothing. For long spells during it I thought I wouldn’t be able to finish it.
“It demonstrates eventually how projects can get finished.”
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Lauren is the former Deputy Digital Editor at woman&home and became a journalist mainly because she enjoys being nosy. With a background in features journalism, Lauren worked on the woman&home brand for four years before going freelance. Before woman&home Lauren worked across a variety of women's lifestyle titles, including GoodTo, Woman's Own, and Woman magazine.
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