Jane Fonda reveals she has no ‘desire’ to be in a ‘sexual relationship’ again

Jane has ‘come to terms’ with a ‘lack of intimacy’

Actress Jane Fonda while hosting a panel titled ''Fire Drill Friday'' to discuss Climate Change consequences with environmental activists in Washington, DC
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Oscar-winner Jane Fonda has shared that she doesn’t “have that desire” to be in a “sexual relationship” again at this point in her life. 

Many of us will have our firm Jane Fonda film favorites, be it Frankie and Grace or Klute, but whichever role she’s playing, Jane is always sure to capture our attention. The ever-glamorous, 83-year-old acting legend is currently single and has been embracing her stunning gray hair. After being married three times and having three grown-up children, it seems that Jane now knows exactly what she wants - and doesn’t want - in any potential future relationship.

The Grace and Frankie star opened up in a recent interview with Harper’s Bazaar and wasn’t afraid to discuss deeply personal matters, including what she’s learnt about herself when it comes to intimacy and romance. 

Speaking to the publication in the cover interview for their April 2021 issue, she stated: "One of the painful things that I've realized by 80—I don't even know how old I am—83, and single now. What I've had to really think about is that I'm not really capable [of intimacy]."

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"It's not them. It's me. If a guy had come along and said, 'Come on, Fonda, show up,' I would have run away scared”, she revealed. 

“I was attracted to men who never would have done that to me because they couldn’t necessarily show up themselves”, Jane continued. “I didn’t know that at the time, but now I know.”

When asked whether regrets might play a determining role in how Jane chooses to live her life, the Oscar Winner got even more candid. 

“Well, the lack of intimacy. I’ve kind of come to terms with that”, she acknowledged. “I don’t want to be in a relationship, a sexual relationship, again. I don’t have that desire.

"Do I fantasize? Yes, here’s my fantasy. I’ll just put it out there. That I meet a professor or a researcher, somebody in that line who is really capable of loving, of cherishing a woman, so that I could test myself and see if I could show up.”

It’s something she went on to reflect might be possible at this point in her life, saying: “I think maybe now I could, but the problem is that, like a man, I would want a younger man. Isn’t that awful? It’s a thing about skin. I would want a younger man, and I’m too vain.”

Does Jane Fonda want to get married again?

Whilst some might be surprised to hear Jane being so open about such deeply personal subjects, she recently revealed to Page Six that she also doesn’t want to marry again. 

Jane has previously been married three times, to the late French director Roger Vadim, politician Tom Hayden and CNN founder Ted Turner.

Speaking to the publication, she said: "I'll tell you something that I haven't achieved, which is a successful marriage.

“But the second part of your question is, 'Do you want to?' I don't want to."

After revealing she lives by herself, Jane continued: “I'm not threatening anybody. I can watch whatever I want on TV. So I don't ever want to be married again. But it's something I wish I'd been better at."

Emma Shacklock
Emma Shacklock

Emma is a Senior Lifestyle Writer with five years experience working in digital publishing, ranging from book publishing to magazines. She currently looks after all things Lifestyle for Woman&Home, GoodToKnow and My Imperfect Life.

Before she joined Future Publishing, Emma graduated from the University of Warwick with a Bachelor of Arts degree in English and Comparative Literary Studies. After leaving education, she started out her publishing career in the world of books, working as a Publisher for an independent digital publisher specializing in back-list and debut commercial fiction novels. With a huge book list and a passion for bringing the best stories to the broadest audience possible, Emma filled her spare time with reading the latest best-sellers and catching up on hit adaptations.

In 2017 she joined TI Media as a fiction writing coordinator on Woman’s Weekly and Woman’s Weekly Fiction as part of the features team. From here, she used her love of books, working to bring short stories to our dedicated readers and began writing for the books pages of Woman, Woman’s Own and Woman&Home, as well as online features ranging from genre round-ups to travel pieces for womanandhome.com. 

After honing her skills, Emma branched out online in 2020 when Future gave her the opportunity to focus on digital-first. When she’s not writing about the next big lifestyle trend, she enjoys cooking, long walks and watching as many crime dramas as she can!