Give Up Worrying About What You Don't Have

When I got married and I was wearing the white basque, garter and stockings everyone seems to put on under their wedding dress, my mother said I should have my photograph taken wearing this get-up as she said "You'll never look as good as you do today." I declined on the basis that I felt at some point I would look better. I never did, never have and never will. I could kick myself and now, as I tell my own daughter...your mother is always right!

I have spent my whole like waiting to "look better", well, more specifically to look slimmer. Even when I was 21 and under eight stone I still felt my bum looked big. And now at 46 my bum really, and I mean really does look big. (And that's simply because it is!).

When I was younger my nan said, "You could balance a cup of tea on that backside." Now you can fit a teapot and a tray of biscuits. But I have come to the conclusion that it's my bum and there's nothing I can do about it. Well, there is something I can do about it but I always have my excuses ready.

I will exercise when I have more time (I will never have more time). I will lose weight when I am less busy at work (I will never be less busy). Even as I say these phrases to myself I know they are lies! As the saying goes, "If the horse you're riding is dead, get off" and that's what I have decided to do.

I am more "letting go" thatn "getting off" - I m going to accept that my backside is is never going to be small and pert, but rather more womanly and soft. I a going to stop backing out of a room rather than turn around and wiggle it out. I am going to accept that I am never going to be rear of the year!

I am always in shock when people say they have had butt implants until I've come to the conclusion that we all want what we can't have. Straight-haired people want curly hair and curly haired people want straight hair.

So it's time to embrace what we have and stop worrying about what we don't have. I now accept what I've got, I've stopped putting pressure on myself and, most importantly, I stopped asking if my bum looks big in this...as I accept it looks big in everything!Anyway, as my best friend said to me, "You can trust people with big butts...as they cannot lie!"