Two-thirds of long-term romantic relationships have this in common

The secret to healthy romantic relationships could be right in front of you

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Friendships make the best relationships, according to a new study. While passion is important, it turns out the secret to romantic longevity could be being BFFs.

A study from the University of Victoria in British Columbia published last week in the Social Psychological and Personality Science journal found that 66% of couples began as long-term friendships. On average, the “friend stage” lasted 22 months before the relationship progressed to romantic. 

The study, led by Danu Stinson, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Victoria, is one of the few in existence that looks into the friends-to-relationship pathway. Stinson has studied the beginnings of relationships for 20 years, and realized many of the participants she spoke with were friends before they were a couple. 


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While about half of the participants said they preferred when friends set them up, most did not go into their friendships thinking they would turn into a romantic relationship. 

The study notes that friendship lines are often blurred. Two-thirds of married participants said they were friends before they dated, but also noted that they were “friends with benefits” before they were even officially a couple. 

The study authors claim there are two ways of finding love: “adventures with strangers” or the “friends-to-lovers pathway.” 

“Any self-respecting consumer of popular culture or gossip at the local coffee shop will recognize the truth of these descriptions,”  the authors wrote in the study introduction. “Movies, television, popular media, and most groups of friends abound with examples of strangers striking up a conversation at a social function and then falling in love during a series of romantic excursions, or slow-blooming attractions between friends that eventually reveal themselves in late-night cathartic conversations (and make-out sessions). Yet despite the cultural ubiquity of both of these pathways to romantic love, we have noticed that relationship science focuses almost exclusively on the former.”

Now, Stinson is looking into the ways friends move from platonic to romantic by analyzing written accounts of the beginnings of the participants’ relationships to determine whether there are milestones or other indicators that propel people to make the first move on a friend. 

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