The menopause needs an image rebrand – let’s celebrate it for what it really is

Here’s a happy thought. As a post-menopausal woman, I’ve now waved goodbye to 40 years of periods. That’s four decades of discomfort, expense and – cringe! – the occasional disaster with a white skirt and an unpredictable cycle.

So long PMT. Farewell stomach cramps. Adios the drain on my purse caused by the £5,000 spent in my lifetime on sanitary items.

Just a century ago, women went through ‘the change’ towards the end of their lives. Today the average age of menopause is the same but we’re living longer. With better self-care, healthy food, moderate exercise and the energy to carry on learning new skills, we could be done with periods and still have half our lives left to enjoy.

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I’m not alone in wanting to give the menopause a little credit.

Menopause: a wonderful surprise?

Remember Kristin Scott Thomas’ famous speech in TV’s Fleabag? ‘Women have pain on a cycle for years – and then, just when you feel you are making peace with it all, what happens? The f***ing menopause comes, and it is the most wonderful f***ing thing in the world.’ Exactly!

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"Yes, your entire pelvic floor crumbles and you get f***ing hot and no one cares," says Kristin, "but then you’re free, no longer a slave, no longer a machine with parts. You’re just a person."

And hurrah for journalist Caryn Franklin’s take on what she sees as the joy of change: ‘In menopause, our body roars. All these years it has put up and shut up, and now will not tolerate abuse or disrespect any longer. It is a demand from your newly awake self for quality not quantity, for re-evaluation and rebalancing. It is your body’s hormonal call to action.’

A smoother path

Of course, it’s a call to action that’s not without pain. Many women have horrendous experiences of menopause – so many celebs have spoken about their midlife trials that one national newspaper has unhelpfully dubbed this period the moanopause.

Hot flushes, sleepless nights, vaginal dryness and brain fog are horrible, but there is now more medical and therapeutic support available than ever before. Meanwhile HRT is back in favour, smoothing the road towards our next phase.

And it’s a phase that can be really exciting.

In Chinese medicine, the menopause is called ‘second spring’ and celebrated as the gateway to an energetic and independent older age that women can look forward to. If we’re lucky, these years can be the most healthy and enjoyable of our lives – a time to follow passions, value our experiences and cherish our new-found liberty.

Time to gain respect

Many of us will get fit in our 40s and 50s, learn a new language, travel (if ever we’re allowed) and even change careers. With grown-up children no longer at home, fewer expectations of us and hopefully greater financial security, the possibilities are enticing.

With the privilege of age, we can be selfish and command rank and respect for our decades of hard-learned skills. Freedom from menstruation and pregnancy should boost our confidence. We can dress how we like and eat what we choose, prioritising what is most important to us.

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Yes, the menopause is the final raw deal a woman must endure but, as someone who is out the other side, I can tell you that life gets better.

I’m no longer a slave. No longer a machine with parts. Just a person. Free.