Low self-esteem can affect every area of your life, making you question
relationships, feel anxious at work and struggle with mood swings.
recent statistics claiming that an alarming 95% of British women worry
about their weight day-in day-out, self-esteem in the UK seems to be at
an all time low.
Comedian, author, actress and w&h cover
star Dawn French has inspired us with her outlook on life. In our
exclusive interview for our September 2014 issue she revealed: ‘we’re
obsessed with our physicality now and I get very bored with it. It’s
important to accept your body whatever shape it’s in. I want to get on
with my actual life and not worry about it.’ Well said!
Gael Lindenfield knows just how debilitating low self-esteem can be.
She’s one of the UK’s leading personal development trainers who
regularly works closely with sufferers to increase their self-worth.
Gael explains, low self-esteem can be triggered by situations that
affected sufferers as children. But that doesn’t mean that we’re doomed
to suffer from low confidence for the rest of our lives. With the right
tools and a little help, it’s possible to boost your self-esteem and
feel ready to take on whatever the day throws at you with confidence and
poise. It’s just about understanding the causes of your emotions better
and applying techniques that will help you boost your energy and
Gael’s bestselling book, Self-Esteem: Simple Steps
to Build Your Confidence (£8.99, Harper Collins) uses her tried and
tested techniques to help you reach your full potential. No wonder it’s
been flying off the shelves for than 20 years. Now, she’s updated the
self-help must-have with wisdom for the modern world.
Click through now for some of Gael’s self-esteem boosting tips and get ready to start feeling more confident today…
In simple terms, self-esteem is our emotional reaction to events and situations that change in different circumstances.
The main factors that effect a persons self-esteem are health, power and
status in a situation, our inner sense of self-worth and the quantity
of negative experiences encountered.
Situations that can cause
knock-backs differ from person to person. These factors all effect your
emotional balance and can create an instability in your mood and
character. When situations create a low energy and negative emotion
continuously your self-esteem and self-worth will suffer.
Setting yourself goals is the best way to ensure you achieve the level of self-esteem that keeps you happy.
Goals create benchmarks which in turn make you feel like you’re making progress. Start with an easy short-term target like cutting out a bad habit then target longer standing problems that may have become ingrained during childhood such as overthinking.
As Gael says it’s important to remember that ‘the process of self-development usually takes at a ‘plodding’ rather than ‘break neck’ pace’.
Making time for yourself is so important. Two ways to boost your energy and self-worth are to exercise and treat yourself.
‘Love is the essential food of the whole programme’, Gael says. ‘Self-love must be administered immediately and abundantly in very practical and clearly demonstrable ways…Your progress will benefit greatly if you keep taking substantial dose of this medicine’.
Exercise is also a great way to boost your energy, it will help you feel less sluggish and will increase your fitness level. Try something high energy that’ll help you de-stress and purge any pent up energy.
Gael suggests keeping a diary of occasions where you find yourself acting against your values, rules and interests.
Your list might be full of casual instances such as going to bed too late, not taking a lunch break, not speaking up or letting others control a social situation.
You need to grade how much these instances effect your self-esteem. Each act on its own may be a casual instance, but several in a day can bring your confidence tumbling down. From here, you can start to make small adjustments.
This may sound like a challenge at first but clearing your mind of old and damaging thoughts will motivate yourself in to action.
Maintain an image of the type of person you’re trying to become – it’s key to envisage the positive persona you’re trying to achieve.
This is where exercise comes in to play again. Lacing up your trainers will feed your subconscious, making your goal even more achievable in your mind.
And see how much better you feel.
Start the day the right way by
going to bed 30 minutes earlier and waking up 15 minutes earlier –
you’ll feel refreshed and won’t start the day stressed with a lack of
time to get ready.
Make sure you take the time to exercise, it’s a great way to take any frustrations out and release pent up energy.
off at least twice a day by doing something relaxing – watch your
favourite TV show, paint your nails or get a fix of online retail
Prioritize the tasks you need to achieve in the day. By
doing this you can take short breaks throughout the day to breathe and
gather your thoughts. Use the time to stretch your legs, make yourself a
cup of tea and go talk to your colleagues.
Buy Self-Esteem: Simple Steps to Build Your Confidence by Gael Lindenfield (£8.99; Harper Collins)