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Thread: Poem - An Alzheimers Request

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    Poem - An Alzheimers Request

    As there are so many of us on this forum, sadly, trying to cope with elderly parents with dementia I thought I would share a poem I have recently come across ..... it was apparently written by a man whose wife had dementia, he had been married to her for 40 years. I now carry this poem with me always as although it makes me cry every time I read it, it helps me to cope with my mum on her particularly bad days ....

    Do not ask me to remember
    Don't try to make me understand
    Let me rest and know you're with me
    Kiss my cheek and hold my hand
    I'm confused beyond your concept
    I am sad and sick and lost
    All I know is that I need you
    To be with me at all costs
    Please do not lose your patience with me
    Do not scold me or curse or cry
    I can't help the way I'm acting
    I can't be different though I try
    Just remember that I need you
    And that the best of me is gone
    Please don't fail to stand beside me
    And love me 'til my life is done


    Kitty x

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    Kitty
    That is lovely but heartbreaking for so many reasons. I have seen it before but its still good to read.

    When you have a loved one with this awful illness, you can relate to and try to understand their behaviour which is totally out of character for them.

    Thank you for posting it again.
    amelica2 Practically perfect in every way... I wish

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    Hi Kitty and Amelica,

    I had not seen the poem before.........

    Found it really poignant, must have meant a lot to you Kity, and of course to you Amelica too, and for anyone else who has loved ones suffering with this awful disease.....
    The soul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears.....

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    I have just been watching a program on TV about dementia/alzheimer and trying too hard not to cry but I just couldn't hold back the tears while reading this poem. My dad had alzheimers for 7 years and lost his battle in 1994 at the age of 62. Seeing him deteriorate every single day, being robbed of his mental abilities, his precious memories and eventually not recognising any member of his family was the most devastating experience I've ever had to live and hasn't left me without consequences.

    This poem is beautifully written and really captures the emotions from a patient's perspective. My hear goes to anyone caring for a person with this awful disease, it's sometimes harder if you are the carer as you have to dedicate 100% of your time to being with them and this can be hugely overwhelming.

    I just wish I had told my dad that I loved him but I was too busy being an angry teenager..
    Last edited by waterlilie; 13-05-2013 at 08:03 PM.

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    Hello Kitty,
    I have just sent that to my sister - she called from work in tears. My Dad has Alzheimer's so very touching.
    Thank you for sharing.

    NMx

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    Hi Nachomama,

    Do hope the poem comforts your sister ..... I find it helps me so much.

    So sorry your family is going through this as well. Take care,

    Kitty x

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