Here's hoping for some sound advice. My 17 year old son has been going out with a girl for over a year and I have tried very hard to like her. Just so that you don't think I am just a jealous mum, his twin brother's girlfriend is lovely. However, R's gf is a different matter. She constantly gives him a hard time. We often overhear their phone conversations as he puts them on loudspeaker, and she is always whining that he doesn't give her enough attention, that she should be his only priority etc etc. Having given up his rugby playing, he now has no other outside interests and he spends every weekend with her, either here or at his dad's house or hers. They are not able to meet in the week because they live too far apart but he calls her every evening. He has recently said that they are going to do this less as they have little to say to each other at the weekends! She is a very spoilt girl and was recently whining that she thinks her father ought to take her away on holiday more than the twice a year he does already. She also goes away with her mum and step dad. As a low income family, all my children have had to get used to very rare holidays and having to save up hard for anything they want. The gf made it plain from the start that she only liked expensive presents and she is always given what she wants. having worked as an apprentice engineer for nearly a year, R has decided that he would like to go to agricultural college in Sept to study forestry. I am unable to finance him so he is working throughout the summer, a minimum 12 hour day, 5 day week, to save up money to help see him through college. He will also have to get a job while he is there. So, at last, to the nub. It is Gf's birthday next month and I found out last night that she has asked for a piece of jewelry that is costing £ 135! Knowing his circumstances, I cannot believe that she is expecting a gift like this. Both my sons are unbelievably generous and R, bless him, has been trying to save up seperately for this gift by putting away the odd £1 or so. He has got to 40 so far. He often buys her other gifts and sometimes clothes and I feel that she is really taking the mickey. At the weekend she had him buying new bedding for "their" bedroom at his dads house!. Understandably, R was not at all impressed when I waded in a bit heavy last night. Its the first time I've said anything but I really think this is so unfair of her. Any ideas, or am I just being a cow?