Being an only child I can honestly say I have suffered not one iota from being an only child, but I DID suffer from being the child of older parents, who also had Victorian values.
This is why, for most of my life, I have said that absolutely nobody should ever have a baby over 35. However, I'm now 36, single, and desperate, so I've had to refine my view somewhat!
If you want a child and feel you can give it the necessary love and support, then go for it, and if you are lucky enough to be blessed with a child, rejoice! If not, then your only child will develop self-reliance and independence, qualities which, I can assure you, have stood me in very good stead.
One piece of advice; do not subject whatever children you have to a draconian upbringing. This was my parents' mistake. Whilst I am able to relate well to others, and do a good job of teaching an public speaking, I am unsuccessful in forming loving, committed bonds with people, and I do in part attribute this to the fact that my parents did not seek out people of my own age for me to socialise with, but expected me to socialise with friends of their age. Also, they did not give me confidence in my own abilities. That, I feel, is the greatest gift you can give a child.
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