Hi, i had my daughter when i was 43, my son was 13 at the time. I had all the tests available and luckily she is perfect, apart from the "off" button, which i cant seem to find ! When i had the tests, my husband and i decided we would terminate if there was anything wrong. Not because we didnt feel able to cope with a disabled child, but because we realised that as we were older parents, the chore would eventually fall to our son to look after her once we weren't around. We felt that we couldn't ask this of him, which is why we made that decision. I have a friend who has a severely mentally disabled sister who is now in her 40's, he and his wife are in their late 50's, both sets of parents are dead, and they wouldn't swap her for the world, but now is the time when they should be able to relax and do the things they want to do but this just isnt possible. I dont think only children suffer at all these days, but only you can make the decision whether to try for another baby. Mine was a big surprise, she wasnt planned at all and every day i thank god that she's here and she's ok. Good luck with whatever you decide x
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