I have been going through the same thing for years and my daughter is now 18yrs, stays in bed all day, can't decide if she wants to go to Uni in Sept or find a job. I want her to go to Uni and find a part-time job, she has never done any work or helped me round the house, she is completely unmotivated. She smashed her car up on Saturday night and didn't even tell us, we had to hear it from the guy she drove into the back of. It is a right off and we won't be replacing it as have told her time after time to stop driving too close to the car in front of her and would only get backchat if I mentioned her driving was terrible. This is the second time for her to go into the back of someone. So no car or fuel and I want her to pack her bags and go!!