Some independant advice please. My only daughter is nearly 18 and is driving me insane. I have my own company which I set up last year and although it is thriving and growing - it does mean that it takes up most of my day (I can end up working 15 hours a day on most days). I am divorced and my daughter lives with me in what was the family home. When I got divorced 5 years ago I promised my daughter that I would keep our home until after she had finished school and college if at all possible. Its a large house - far too big for just 2 of us but I have managed to keep it although it has now used up all my savings and I have had it on the market for 12 months.
My daughter does not have a job and has lived off her EMA whilst at college for social money and clothes and has never contributed to the household funds.
Now that she has finished college I asked her to help clean the house whilst I am work but instead she lies in bed all day and when she is up, leaves the place in a mess and wont even put kitchen rubbish in the bin. Her bedroom is a pigstye and all I get is rudeness and backchat if I suggest she helps out. She is rude to my partner and any friends that come around to the house. Last week I got a torrent of abuse after she came in after staying out all night. She says she has no respect for me and that she had a terrible childhood as she was allowed most things that she wanted. ( I compensated for a bad marriage and then divorce!!)
I have asked her to contribute £30 a month towards the household bills or go and live elsewhere (her dad wont have her there). She is also expecting me to support her through university for the next 4 years too.
How can I make her see that I cant afford to keep her in the life style she now has?
I realise that I am also to blame for this situation as she was spoiled when younger but I cannot go on this way - its stressing me out and it is unpleasant to come back to my own home.
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