Hi Gweni and thanks for your note. Daughter's reasons for initial dislike were physical appearance (at the time he carried a few extra pounds and she said I could do better - looks are very important to teenagers aren't they!) and then of course she was worried he would try and replace her dad. Over a period of 2 years of constant reassurance and seeing how happy he made me, daughter accepted our relationship and is now really upset for me. Initially put on a brave face for her - she wondered if being so horrible at the beginning was to blame for this situation - so I had to get that cleared up immediately. Now it's a different story as I cannot keep it all bottled up. She does all she can to help and I'm so proud of her but still concerned I am not giving her enough support through exam stage etc. She's not a very "streetwise" 16 year old - not yet had a boyfriend - and freely admits being unable to imagine the heartbreak, but we're very open in our discussions and show love easily.
OU is only a "beginnings course" at very early stages and I'm not very confident at the moment, but will stick with it. Congrats on the phD - that's amazing!
Just wish I could stop hurting, cope better with the sense of loss and emptiness and smile again instead of just dreading each day. Sorry to end on a downer - just ignore me!
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