i know how you feel too, i'm 52 and started to feel like this when i was about your age. i now accept that it's just a fact of life, but if you're happy in yourself it's not a problem. i split with my husband when i was 45, i had a 15 year old and a 2 year old at the time. my eldest now lives on his own and my daughter is now nearly 9. she is the one who keeps me sane though, if it was just me and my ex i would be climbing the walls by now. i had a discussion with a friend at work just before we split and we both decided that once our kids had moved out we wouldnt be able to stay with our husbands as we realised we didnt have anything in common with them anymore. it's sad really, as just like you, we didnt really talk about anything interesting, just routine stuff like the kids, work, the house etc. i wish now that we'd both made more of an effort. i'm happy with my life now but have been through a really traumatic time and wouldn't wish it on anyone. i dont think your expectations are wrong, you just need to make your OH aware of how you feel, that was the mistake i made, he cant read your mind, same as you cant read his ! you dont say whether you have a job, i love my job, i get to see all of my friends every day ! you only get out of life what you put in, it's a huge effort when you're feeling down and forgotten, but its the only way you'll be able to make things better. dont do what i did and leave it too long, i hope you manage to sort it out, good luck xx
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