Background: Young 53 - widowed 2002 when only daughter aged 10 years. Threw myself into work, settling unknown debts and creating new home on a shoestring budget for the next 3 years. Decided time to make new friends so explored Internet Dating and met 2 men for 2 dates before knowing that I'd found my soulmate (yes I know it all sounds crazyily romantic). Daughter hated him with such depth/anger etc that we sought professional counselling but happy to say that after 3 tough years, she's now accepted and grown into a lovely young lady. The problem is .... soulmate (we live 50 miles apart) started to "distance" himself and be less caring/loving after Christmas and has now said he needs some space and isn't sure of his love anymore. I'm devastated - talked of future dreams and thought we'd grow old together (he has older daughters and good relationship with ex wife). I'm not pushing for marriage, just can't understand how we have reached this point of separation so suddenly. Honestly no arguments or signs (I'm not complacent and do know relationships need working at!). Now feeling so lost and empty. Have to put brave face on for daughter and reassure her (who's felt guilty for being so nasty to him for years). Struggling to hold it together and have talked to counsellor myself, which is great because I can just cry and let it all out, but really need words of wisdom to help me understand what happened. If anyone else says stuff like "plenty more fish in the sea" and "you're still young and attractive" I will scream! Past 4 years have been perfect from my viewpoint (feel disloyal for saying better than 27 years of marriage). Appreciate any comments.
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