Just to say that my husband didnt have any choice at all when youngest and disabled son turned up here after 7 years living with his Dad. They simply got rid of him. My husband took him on because he is my son and part of me but it isnt easy any day. The boy was ina trerible state. I think counselling is a great idea because it helps you to unravel things a bit, lots of very big knots sometimes! Very best wishes and i hope things work out xx