oh Julie, I am so sorry to hear your tragic news. you must be devastated. here's me moaning on about my symptoms when you are going through so much pain with the loss of your husband. I will contact my doctors next week to arrange an appointment. you do make a valid point-it hadn't even occurred to me that the sweats would be anything other than the early start of the dreaded menopause. all you can do is take one day at a time and try and get through day to day. you will get stronger and the pain will ease. take care, keep strong janex