Hello Lena. I recognise everything you say and I can come up with two things, acceptance and self-reliance. Accept that your husband will not change. I know how hard that is. I have noticed that most (not all) men seem to put themselves first in any relationship. It is one of our great disappointments with them. Accept it as his shortcoming. As you say, he is a good man and that is a great plus. Once you realise that he is not going to be what you want him to be towards you, you may find you learn to appreciate him differently. You will then feel free to gather your own support in whichever way it makes you happy. The forum is an obvious place to start and you have already done that by posting this problem. Another way is to make your own life pleasant without putting him first. That can be in the form of a job, a shopping trip, going out and meeting 'the girls' (forum supper clubs are great for this) and generally having a life of your own which does not require his input every time. Try doing all of this without feeling guilty and do not seek anyone's approval, this is for you. I have found these strategies to be a great mood lifter and they lead on to more things. I hope they work for you. x
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