my mil was very difficult and I vowed I would try and get on with my dils when they came along which I do. We have just returned from a week in France with our son and family and had a great time I look on the dils as friends and as long as they make my sons happy thats Ok with me. I do agree though that they go to her parents at Christmas etc but I can understand that and they usually come to me sometime after. My MIL could never forgive me for taking her little darling away!!