Sorry to hear about your hard times, Seahorse, I do hope things improve for you soon. Have you applied for Tax Credits? Might be a thought to help you over this horrid hurdle. I bit the bullet and applied and was astounded to find out I was elligible. As for "forcing" the children - I agree you simply cannot do it. Even at 14 the youngests wishes should be heard and if he/she would prefer fortnightly visits then that should be paramoungt, not his wishes or yours for that matter. This will make you a stronger person believe me its not just a cliche - but do start to fight for your own and your childrens financial security....you deserve it. Divorces are frightful things but when you come through it (my experience says not to expect wonderous changes in either parties attitude for 2years from date of separation)life will be much better. Keep smiling.....it will annoy him even more!! Regards, and wishing you well, Alex
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