brandyq, sometimes I have a starter for a main course and then a pudding, so I dont feel as if I have missed out.
You really should be going for what you really want, not what you think you should, so following the golden rules is crucial, eat slowly and enjoy every mouthful and STOP when you feel comfortably full, if you end up feeling stuffed..........then you have blown it!!
Thats where the control comes into it. Its eating too much over the years and years that had put most of us where we were 116 days ago!
Keep at it, you will get there it just takes a little practice, but its worth it, your worth it!!