Just to say that i had been in a situation where our 17 year old was happy for me to end a marital situation with a at times controlling and other times uncaring H. A few years on with the marriage ended and son still with me they get along not too badly. Some things need addressing and possibly i let H black moods and bursts of temper get in the way of what i felt was acceptable behaviour from a partner. (easy life syndrome!!) Outcome pretty drastic but we at least speak to one another which is good for children though there is still a feeling of the "being careful what you say" going on. It's not easy but I'm lucky in the sense that I now live without the criticism and anger and have managed financially with extra work and families help to keep a home together. Just to say do whatever you feel is right for you and your children and i'm sure you will get there. Meg x