In this situation it is very difficult not to compare yourself unfavourably, but remember, you are the one who is going to be there for your children on a daily basis, you are the one who will really share their lives, their disappointments and their successess. Your ex will only share them second hand.
A good upbringing does not depend on the amount of social standing you have or the amount of money you can afford to spend on the children. It depends on them learning true values, good manners and respect for other people. When my husband left I had very little money and had to work nights for several years in order to pay the mortgage. My children only had holidays when their father took them and he could afford to buy them expensive presents. In spite of that they are far closer to me that him, have grown up to be very popular young men, well mannered, polite and respectful. They help me look after my elderly mother and will always help friends with any problems. They are both in good jobs and own their own homes. I am very proud of my sons and proud of the way that I brought them up.
I am sure that you will be too. Life often seems hard and you can not see any way out of the situation, but you will get there and life will improve. You will discover strengths you never knew you had and will be proud of yourself for what you achieve. Accept the way you are feeling, its normal, then continue with your life, we are always here to support you if you need it.
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