I can relate to all the above. After 13years of marriage I discovered my husband had an affair. His work took him abroad and 'what the eye doesn't see the heart doesn't grieve over' till someone finds out. His job role changed which meant he no longer travelled and that put a stop to any foreign liaisons. We managed to sort things out and life went on. Trust had gone out the window though. After 28 years I discovered that he had been having another affair. The foreign travel had started again and he had been living a sort of double life. Tried to turn it round but realised he was a weak, pathetic liar who lived in a fantasy world of his own. This woman (year younger than ED) Said she was willing to be woman number 2 and I could still be woman number1!!! Sod that for a bowl of cherries. Sorry if that sounds bitter, I am not. The past 5years have been great Have ups and downs but on the whole......