Thanks for your comment. I didnt mean I try to discipline her now. Far from it !!! All I meant was that, in the past, I took that route while dad took the easy route. Having chatted to my female friends, I find that's not so unusual. I've noticed that she does her own washing etc now and also puts her dirty crocks in the dishwasher - something she didnt do before - so thats a result !! Hopefully it will sort itself out but it is a worry. Thanks for your comment.
To all the other ladies who have replied - thanks. Its nice to know I am not alone in this ! Really all you want is what is best for them and not to see them mess up after working so hard to get her degree in the first place.. We do have "girly" days and recently I paid for her and my other daughter to have a girly day together.