My husband had an affair over 4 years ago and we are still together. its not been easy but we are much more aware of each others feelings and both are willing to work at our marriage. I find it hard as any of my friends that have gone through similar are all now divorced so I do feel lonely however the forum has helped me a lot as I have had support from a number of others going through the same.Please pm me if you ever feel like a more personal chat i'd be happy to share any advice i have received. Good luck hattie