Sorry to begin on a downer. My husband and I were reconciled after his infidelity and I put 100% into the relationship. I thought things were going really well the first year and then I discovered texts by the same woman yet again. In my case she was a work colleague and with hindsight I should have insisted that he change his job as we never stood a chance whilst she was around. On a positive note my next door neighbour had an affair and was reconciled with her husband and they are still together 10 years on.