Thanks everyone for all the advice - am crying as I read it. I know I am making excuses, but honestly he is very gentle apart from the explosions, but yes it is totally unacceptable and until last night I did not realise how badly it affected my daughter. Incidentally, she is the one who is least likely to annoy anyone - very gentle, kind, helpful - and totally out-of-character for her. OH has never laid a hand on me - and we get on extremely well apart from this. OssieKez, funny you should mention heart - he lately had to have a sudden procedure. I plan to talk to him now that D has left country for fortnight - will lay it on line that he gets help. Told her I would have that organised before she comes back. She wanted me to cancel her trip because she is so worried about her youngest brother and effect it will have on him. Did not say much about alcohol before she left - just emphasised it was damaging her and putting her in danger. Thank you all so much. Will keep you posted xx
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