The best thing that has happened so far is that your D is going on holiday,this will put some space between your OH and your D.
What does also concern me is that you state your D was very drunk,at only 17!!Who supplied this alchohol? If it was a business,then they are only interested in profit and should be reported. If it was a friend,then they don't give a toss about your D or themselves and as for using your OH as this reason, sorry, but I just don't buy it,your D went out, enjoyed herself and didn't worry about the possible effects that her condition would have.(Been there,done that.)Nor did she think what might have happened to her in that state,but I bet your OH did,and it frightened him into such a rage.
However,as always there are two sides to the coin. Is it possible that your OH is finding it hard to accept that his 'little girl'is growing up?,and it's even harder when your 'teens' challenge the parents authority.
Of course,belting is out of the question and your OH needs to accept that before it gets out of hand. Going puce,he can't help,that is part of his natural make-up,(I tend to go white with rage,not often thankfully)
From experience I know that if I or my brothers ever locked our bedroom doors then they would be very quickly taken off the hinges!!no if's or buts.
Maybe,so long as nothing physical happened,you shouldn't step in,you could play devil's advocate. Tell your D that you agree with her Dad,be a unity together,there is a possibility that your D is trying to play one of against another.As for divorce,no child of 17 really knows the long term consequences of that,and should be stopped in her tracks for suggesting it,it is your marriage,not hers an only you can decide if that is the absolute last resort.
While your D is on holiday,take the opportunity to talk with you OH,and try to find the happy medium,also tell your D that is what you are going to do,then when your D arrives home,you would like all of you sit down together and talk about it,like adults. At 17 your D is very much responsible for her own actions.
Counsellor can get involved if all parties want it.
Police get involved if a complaint is made.
Solicitor,that is up to you.
But I do feel if you and your OH can give this trying time a go,it will soon pass.
Please,don't think I am telling you what to do,this is purely advice.
Just hope some if not all of it helps.
Good Luck
annemari x
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