Hi Kayzee I wonder how he feels about being away so much? Could be a good way to start the conversation - for all you know he may hate it.. After 18 years, it's got to be worth a good heart to heart before making any radical decisions..... Good luck and what a great group of people on this forum! I, like you, prevaricated before joining the forum - and I'm 49 this Thursday so we're the same age group. I live quite remotely so this is a great way to stay in touch.