I always think honesty is the best policy. My son was 18months when my ex left. The ex was reluctant to take Mitch for visits at the time because he took too much looking after. The excuses kept coming. At one point when Mitch was about 6, he thought that 3 months or so was a "fortnight" because his dad (& I use the term loosely) told him that he would see him 'in a fortnight.' As Mitch hit teenage years and our family needed a break from him because some of his behaviour was unbelievable, I begged for help or input from my ex. It never came. Our family loves Mitch and there will always be a place for him in our home but he has cut himself off from us. I wonder if its because it was done to him!