I have just left my husband after 29 years, because like you I realised that I no longer loved him and we were living seperate lives. I was lonely, bored and what's more had become boring. Sitting at home and letting life pass me by. Sex was a distant memory, largely due to my husband's habit of having several large brandies before coming to bed at night. We rarely did anything together unless I arranged it all. Suddenly I decided that at the age of 52, I had a lot of living still to do. I lost 3 and a half stone of weight caused by comfort eating at night when I was on my own, have joined a choir, women and home supper club, taken swimming lessons, started yoga and moved into a flat on my own. Sure I am lonely sometimes, but I was lonely in the relationship anyway. My husband has taken my decision badly and has so far refused to have any contact with me. I was hoping for a relationship on some level mainly for our daughters sake, who is getting married next year. I can only hope that with the passing of time, we can somehow at least be civil to one another, after all we were together such a long time. I believe there are many couples clinging to the wreckage of a relationship for a variety of reasons, and that's fine if they can bear it. I couldn't and left, because I believe that had I stayed, I would have ended up hating my husband and I didn't want that. I hope I have another relationship at some time, and hope that I have learned from my previous mistakes. It's very easy to take each other for granted in a long term marriage, and it needs a lot of effort to keep things fresh and interesting. Not sure if I have been of any help to you, but good luck with whatever you decide.
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