Oh my God, Need2know, this is happening to you TODAY!! Hadn't realised that while reading the posts. Have fingers crossed for your strength and your heart. Okay, so he is a weak man and there are usually reasons for someone to stray, but after this famous lunch, I think you need to lay down some ground rules when he comes home. (Not that it's my place to tell you how to deal with your marriage - sorry) However, if it were me, I would make it very clear that any further contact with this woman, or any other woman, would be THE END!! No more understanding or excuses. He has had those and now, his attention is to be focused only on you and your marriage. My heart is in my mouth for you. Lots of love to you.