I am really so grateful for all of your replies. However, from the strong survivor I was yesterday I am now a weeping wreck. Without wanting to make excuses for him, he is really a good man,who everyone loves and this is completely out of character for him which is how I rumbled him so easily. But the thing is, we have both been extremely negligent of each other (seperate beds, the lot) and I can totally understand how when someone threw him a lifeline he took it. He never meant to hurt anyone and is devastated that he has. Last night I had an absolutely BLAZING row with him which ended in tears and I suppose, a little bit more understanding. I told him that he is not being fair on me and he agreed but still didn't know what to do as he doesn't believe we can get back what we once had, where I do think we can. When he had gone to bed I checked his phone, which he had switched off, and there was a message from her with arrangements. I was shaking with anger, fear- everything. Though it was late, I'm lucky to have a friend who is there for me anytime. She told me what I had to do:get into bed with him and... well I don't need to say anymore do I? To cut a long story short I did, which meant this morning he was lovely. He was back to his normal self but I still had the spectre of him meeting her hanging over me. In the end I confronted him and he had no choice but to admit it. Something I haven't mentioned is that she now actually lives in another country (far away fortunately) and is leaving at the weekend and had asked to see him. He has sworn that nothing is going to happen (and I made him put on his grottiest underpants just in case!) and I believe him. I broke down and told him I'd deleted her message, why I had slept with him and for once since this hideous mess began, the husband I know and love comforted me. He is there with her now and I don't mind telling you ladies, I am a wreck. I wanted to throw a sickie at work but I'm not that type so I am here, trying to make the best of it but my eye is constantly on the clock as I feel with her going away this will be the last time he will see her, unless he decides it's her he wants. I have asked him to ring me if there is anything to tell but up to now he hasn't. He met her at 12 and it's now 1.20...and I don't know what to think but am praying he has made the right decision. Thanks for listening, ladies..I needed to get it off my chest x
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