Need2know - you are so brave and strong right now, i think your stepson will be yopur best ally in this - he can make your husband see what an idiot he is being. im wondering whether some time apart from your husband will help him to get this woman out of his system - he may realise that she isn't the person he thinks she is, and then he will be in no more doubt and turmoil if you two get back togrther. It may also give you time to decide if you really want him back. If things haven't been good for a while maybe you will enjoy life more without him. Take care - you are doing so well - xx