Hi ratfink, just read about this tragedy that your friend is going through, and I think that by physically going round to see her, and just being there will have been of great comfort to her. It makes us all shudder to think of the anguish and torment that this young women has been through, we all want to hold our own families close to us, and draw strength from their presence. You are a strong person, and a great friend. I hope this awful situation can be used to turn your realationship with your sister round. Best wishes x