Oh I do understand. When I took my D back for her second year we had unloaded some stuff from the car when she said she hated uni and didn't want it anymore. I just said that's fine. Sounds blase but I couldn't stand the thought of her life being so unhappy. Because I said leave, it stopped her in her tracks. SO... we sat on her bed for 4 hours and debated. Her decision was to stay. The only condition I made was if she did two years then the third was expected. It is so hard to see your children unhappy and life is too short to put that much pressure on them. It sounds as though your son will find his own way in life and you will be proud of him whatever happens. Don't make yourself unhappy worrying about him, if you take away all the stress you may find he quietly gets on with things very succesfully. Good luck. Do let us know how he gets on.