eliza
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Reged: 20/03/2008
Posts: 679
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It is 4 years today since my lovely mum died, most of the day has been ok a little sad at times.
From when she went into hospital my dad started coming over for his dinner on a sunday and he still does 4 years on and thats ok (most of the time) as I'm the closest to him my brother and I both live locally my other siblings are spread over the country the bulk of care etc falls to me.
What I'm getting at is,
My eldest sister who comes over as quiet harsh and emotionless has sent me this morning the most beautiful bouquet of flowers I knew they were for me and not mum as they had lillies in them (my favourite,Mum hated them).I know it is her way of saying thanks for all I do for dad and for the flowers I take to chuch etc etc.
Suppose what I'm trying to say is that although it made me cry when I got them it made me remember that I am thought about by others to and that the other members of my family have not not forgotten the significance of the date either.
Sorry for rambling on
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salbi
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Reged: 11/08/2008
Posts: 24
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Hi Eliza,
sorry tht you are feeling sad today. Again not sure what I can say to make you feel better. But there are lots of people who understand how you are feeling and are sending you their support. Your sister sounds a lovely person and don't our family sometimes surprise us! How pleased I'm sure your mum would have been that she is looking out for you. Hope things are bearalbe with the other half and he would not remember the date - it definately is a man thing.
Keep positive and the overwhelming sadness of the day will fade into something more bearalbe.
thinking of you
Salbi x
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alina
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Reged: 24/08/2009
Posts: 163
Loc: cheshire
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You are not rambling. We (this includes you) are here to talk to each other, to laugh, hug, cry, commiserate and give advice, sometimes conflicting. Your sister probably thinks of you more often than you think, and probably feels a bit guilty that you shoulder supporting your dad. My eldest sister looks after our dad mostly, and my OH and I have the care of my MIL mostly. That's family life.
I still miss my mum after more than 20 years.
Lots of hugs.
x
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aec13cat
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Reged: 08/01/2009
Posts: 3123
Loc: N. Ireland
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Hi Eliza. Sorry this has been a sad day for you with the anniversary of your mums death but that was really lovely of your sister as well. She obviously realises you do a lot for your Dad and she wants to say she appreciates it. Your mum would be so proud of you looking after you Dad the way you are doing. Take care.
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xxxSummerxxx
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Reged: 29/03/2008
Posts: 10539
Loc: Billericay,Essex
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Eliza, You haven't had a easy year have you.
Thinking of you.
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dbverycherry
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Reged: 24/02/2007
Posts: 6521
Loc: Kent UK
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How lovely of your eldest sister and no wonder you are feeling so sad and emotional Eliza.
Hugs to you Eliza 
I know a little of how you are feeling and as my dear dad died 13 years ago and every now and then it feels as if it was yesterday.
Often when I get down like this then my older sister tends to to and mentions him fondly and of how we pulled together and to help our mum through the first few days, weeks and difficult years after he passed away so suddenly at just 53.
It is such wonderful thing to be loved but to also to be told so and that you are appreciated counts for loads and is priceless in my mind.
Sincerely from me Debbie x
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amelica2
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Reged: 21/07/2008
Posts: 6103
Loc: Never Never Land
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Sorry to hear of your sadness today Eliza but Im sure you have lots of happy memories.
Lovely of your sister to send you flowers- actions speak louder than words sometimes.
take care
amelica2
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