MrsSmith
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Reged: 26/06/2009
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Loc: Land of milk and honey
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I keep thinking I'm getting through this and I'm not. I'm sitting here crying and I don't know what to do. My GP referred me to see someone and she went off sick so I rang Cruse and they wrote to me to say there's a waiting list. I was away for aweek and was fine then I came home and the "care" home had writte n to me more or less caling me a liar. I can't be jokey at the moment, it's all too much so I'd better not post any more for a while
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Katy15
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Reged: 29/05/2009
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Loc: Wiltshire
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Oh dear Mrs Smith, I have no idea what you are going through but be sure that we are all here to share your pain.
A big hug from me.
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Katy xx
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Thimble
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Reged: 04/12/2008
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Mrs Smith .................... this forum isn't just for "jokey" posts. It is also for posts when you are needing comfort and support from people. Don't hold it in............. let it out to us and we will give you all our "virtual" shoulders and offer any comfort, support and advice that you want.
I am so sorry you are struggling to deal with a situation that is obviously causing you so much stress (like Katy15 I am not aware of what it is) so rant, rave, shout do whatever you need here if it helps you cope.
Take care ................... thinking of you....... thimble
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MrsSmith
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Reged: 26/06/2009
Posts: 1436
Loc: Land of milk and honey
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Thank you. I've just rung a place I used to go for couselling/group support and they're going to fit me in asap. It's such a lovely day I think I'll go and visit the grave which is in a beautiful, calm place. I've never been there onmy own before and maybe I need to.
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Splash123
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Reged: 04/05/2008
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Loc: South Glamorgan
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My thoughts are with you Mrs Smith ....I know how hard bereavement is....you think you are dealing with it and the Whoosh its back again....it still happens to me after 5 years ....I take myself off some where on my own and cry and rage and when I get home i usually feel much better....i go to the coast and walk on the coastal path but the grave may be the right [place for you.
My most positive thoughts are winging there way to you .Stay strong ....this too will pass.
Big Hug.
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gumpenscot
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Reged: 17/06/2009
Posts: 498
Loc: Germany
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MrsSmith,
I'm sorry to hear of your loss and know it must be very difficult for you. Remember, we're all here to support you.
Take care and we'll be thinking about you as you visit the grave.
gumpenscot x
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MrsSmith
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Reged: 26/06/2009
Posts: 1436
Loc: Land of milk and honey
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I've just had a good rant to a forumer and feel a bit better. Thanks everybody. It seems to be little things that set me off
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meganb
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Reged: 08/02/2009
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So sorry Mrs Smith -- Sometimes life is very hard to take isn't it? We're all here for you whenever you feelthe need for extra hugs and friendly words. I do hope you will feel brighter soon Big hug meganb
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kate1
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Reged: 18/08/2008
Posts: 6879
Loc: Leicestershire
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Mrs Smith,
Even though I have remarried and it's now nearly ten years since my first OH died, I still cry.
You don't get over it, you just get used to it.
Pm me anytime if you want to.
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gre1958
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Reged: 15/08/2008
Posts: 1088
Loc: Staffordshire
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Mrs Smith
I am so sorry to hear what a hard time you are having
please don't go away keep posting - many of us have know exactly how you are feeling believe me
no two people are the same we all deal with things in our own way so am not going to tell you how to cope thats not my place
but just know crying is not a bad thing nor is laughing whatever makes you feel better one day will make you feel bad the next !
stay with us , someone always here very best wishes Gre x
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Splash123
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Reged: 04/05/2008
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Loc: South Glamorgan
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I agree with Kate ...it is 5 years for me and I too am re married but you just get used to it ....not over it ....think of all your happy memories ....that helps me ....but you are right ...it is the little things that set you off!
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Take care ...
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MrsSmith
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Reged: 26/06/2009
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Loc: Land of milk and honey
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Hi everybody and thanks so much for your kind words. I've now arranged counselling for next week and found a telephone bereavement counselling on the net so will ring them tonight. I've decided I'll tell you my story but will start another thread.
Thanks again, especially for all the hugs
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bevvywevvy
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Reged: 20/10/2008
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MrsSmith,
I am so sorry. I am sending you a big squashy virtual hug. It isn't much, but i hope it helps.xxx
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rjaly
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Reged: 09/02/2007
Posts: 172
Loc: Leicestershire
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I am pleased to hear that you are going to get the support you need. I agree with what everyone else has said. It's been 9 years for me, but sometimes the most ridiculous thing will set me off.It's hard to cope with the fact that life rolls on at a time when you feel it should stop completely. Good luck with the counselling.Take care
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Foxie
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Reged: 09/08/2007
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Hi Mrs Smith
Just to send you good thoughts and a big hug. The forum is here for you when you are ready.
Take care
Foxie x.
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I've learnt that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou.
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MrsSmith
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Reged: 26/06/2009
Posts: 1436
Loc: Land of milk and honey
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Thanks to all of you. I rang the bereavement line last night and talked for ages to a wonderful lady. They aren't counsellors, just someone to listen, and it clarified a lot in my mind. I need tohave a meeting with the owner of the Nursing Home and get an apology then I hope I can move on. I feel SO much better today.
Here's the number in case anyone else needs to talk:
0800 435 455. Every evening.
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aubretia
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Reged: 11/01/2009
Posts: 501
Loc: Wiltshire
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Hi Mrs Smith
I'm glad you have found someone to talk to.
Wishing you all the best and take care.
Aubretia x
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