Helli
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Reged: 02/07/2009
Posts: 5
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Hi everyone
As a possible new user,I was browsing the forum thinking about life - as you do - when I saw Lesley's message. There aren't any suitable words except practical ones ie solicitor, solicitor and solicitor.
Sorry you are having such a horrid time. On a positive note at least you will have a nice smelling loo!
From my point of view having nearly reached retirement age; working two days a week; finished C&G course with house and garden boring me to death; and a husband, albeit a good man, who is retired but never here I was wondering is this it?!?
I am used to being focused on a project but I don't seem to be able to get energised. Doesn't that sound pathetic? So here I am signed in. Thanks for reading everyone.
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Kezabel
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Reged: 11/03/2009
Posts: 2624
Loc: Round the Bend
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Hello Helli - welcome to the forum!
Not quite at retirement age yet but there are loads of lovely ladies who will give you lots of advice.
You've come to the right place for any kind of support.
Look forward to 'chatting' with you.
Kez x
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Helli
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Reged: 02/07/2009
Posts: 5
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Thanks for the welcome. This is where I sound dim -- how do you get the pretty butterflies, etc at the end of the posted messages?
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cinderella
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Reged: 08/08/2008
Posts: 2199
Loc: Fantasyland
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Hi helli and welcome to the Forum.
Cinderella
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GILL3SQ
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Reged: 29/07/2008
Posts: 1599
Loc: Staffordshire
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Unlike Lesley, at least your husband is still in your life somewhere. I think the problem is really that you need to re-invent your life as so many of us do!! You need to p ut yourself first for a while and look for things you really want to do and would enjoy. Plan some activities on your own and perhaps include your OH in some also. He may also be looking for something new and exciting in his life.
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Helli
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Reged: 02/07/2009
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Quite right Gill3SQ. I agree wholeheartedly and am well aware that I don't have anything to complain about. That just makes it worse!
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Moco
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Reged: 28/03/2007
Posts: 852
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interesting conversation really about what to do when you give up work, I have a few years yet but I know what you mean about how you could get bored with house and garden..etc!
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junemc
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Reged: 12/02/2009
Posts: 876
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Hi Helli, I had to take early retirement on medical grounds about six years ago. After a working life filled with stress, I finally felt that I had ran into a brick wall, and physically and mentally couldnt do it any more.
Now I take my time doing all the things I do, and have never felt as though I couldnt fill my days, although I still get asked that question from former colleagues.
Once I was feeling lots better, I started walking everywhere, literally baby steps at first, then building up over time. I am not a serious walker or rambler and dont want to be, I do like to see and talk to people.
I have always been an avid reader, so now spend a lot of my relaxation time reading every type of book under the sun, its wonderful. I see friends for leisurely lunches or early evening drinks without having to rush about getting ready and not wanting to go because I dont have the energy. I also do some voluntary bereavement counselling.
Earlier this year for a number of reasons I was down in the dumps and was chatting to my daughter who suggested I join the W&H forum and actually gave me the magazine. I have never looked back. Although I dont spend a lot of time on the forum, I always know that there is a friendly/caring person there for a chat if I need one. The ladies on here are so lovely and caring, its like having dozens of new friends.
I must say welcome to the forum to you and I hope you get as much out of it as I and lots of others do!! 
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GILL3SQ
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Reged: 29/07/2008
Posts: 1599
Loc: Staffordshire
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Helli,
I am sorry if my first sentence sounded harsh - I did not mean it to What I meant was that you do have an OH, companion, someone to share things with but I think you have lost each other along the way - many of us are guilty of this. I just meant that you could find things to do together as well as apart and you haven't really got to look at your whole life without someone to share it with. That said I do believe that we are all "on our own" in this life to some extent and just have to make of it what we can It's all about contentment I think. Am I making any sense? Perhaps its the heat.
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Bizibee
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Reged: 25/03/2009
Posts: 613
Loc: North Wales
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Hi Helli,
Welcome to the Forum. This will be one of the best things you ever decided to do............honestly.
My OH and I have completely different interests and we do our own thing from time to time. He loves golf and all types of sports and they bore me rigid. I have my own interests too but we always have lovely conversations talking about what we have been doing. I am fully retired and he finishes in December. Have you considered looking into the different clubs there are on the Forum. Walking, Supper Clubs, Book Clubs etc - go on, dip your toe in, what have you got to lose?
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suziedee
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Reged: 21/05/2009
Posts: 558
Loc: Cumbria
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Welcome Helli, I'm not retired yet but at home all the time cos of illness. Take your time, sit back and think about all the things you have wanted to do but never had the time for. Take small steps one at a time and before you know it you will have a new life. Good luck.
Suziedee
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Helli
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Reged: 02/07/2009
Posts: 5
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To everyone who replied - thank you so much. Your kind thoughts and helpful suggestions are much appreciated. There is a lot to be said for walking - I know it does you good and that you feel better afterwards. No GillS3Q you didn't sound harsh at all. Just up front and said it how it is. I think it was time of the month without time of the month if you know what I mean. Thanks for the suggestions about clubs on line. I will give this a go. To the ladies who are not well - even bigger thanks for taking the time to read my dismals. Take care of yoursleves.
Thanks to one and all again.
Bye for now.
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