aquariangel23
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Reged: 04/02/2009
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Hi I'm new on here and just wondering if anyone has experienced their husband/partner changing sexuality whilst still in the marriage/relationship. This has happened to me and 3 years on i am still trying to come to tems with it. I am thinking of starting a self help group locally in Cumbria. But need a bit of encouragement as it is so isolating in this situation.
Jane
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Sella_Vee
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Reged: 03/04/2008
Posts: 1504
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Hi Jane, and welcome to the forum. I don't know any women in your position, but I do know, through work, of three men, two of whom had children, who have left marriages of some years' standing, to move in with other men, so there must be other women in your position. I hope you find someone on here who is able to give you advice.
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LadyGodiva
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Reged: 19/09/2006
Posts: 797
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Jane,
I have no experience I am afraid and I can only sympathise. However I do know a person who 'came out' in middle age and he has lived for many years with his partner very happily. His ex wife and adult children regularly visit and stay over. It seems to be a very happy situation but one I am sure that has taken a lot of heartache and soul searching to accomodate. I do not know his ex wifes feelings.
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PLASMO
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Reged: 13/03/2008
Posts: 13038
Loc: FLOUNCELAND
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Hi Jane, Sella and Lady Godiva,
I have not known anyone in this situation, but can understand how difficult it must be to accept that your partner has left you for a member of the same sex.
It must be a really difficult situation to come to terms with, and I hope you have great success in starting a self help group.
Plasmo x
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chilla
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Reged: 05/09/2008
Posts: 6203
Loc: runcorn
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Hi jane, as per ther other ladies, i personally haven't had experience of your situation.
I seem to remember reading that one of the gay advice lines also helps spouses whose husband/wife has decided to come out.
It must be very difficult and there are times when you must be very angry. I hope you can find a way toeasee your mind
Chilla x
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Jane_09
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Reged: 08/01/2008
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Hi Jane, and welcome to the forum.
I have a friend who lived with a man for 5 years. One day he came home from work and quite simply told her he was gay! She ended the relationship immediately (even though he was happy for them to continue living together) and moved on.
I can understand that this must have come as a terrible shock to you, especially if you had no idea that he was gay. Are you sure that a self help group is the way forward for you? Are you still with this man?
I know my friend blamed herself when she first found out her partner was gay. It took her a long time to get over it, but she got there in the end - I am pleased to say that she is now very happily married to someone else.
I hope you find the best way forward for YOU!
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