maggie1961
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Reged: 07/11/2009
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I am a new user joined today and am wondering does anyone have any tips to help get through the empty nest syndrome. My eldest daughter left to live with her boyfriend about twelve months ago and the youngest has disappeared to Southern Ireland to work for twelve months. I work full time and it all seems so empty in the evening with my husband snoring on the settee on many an evening and no kids to talk. Coupled with the dreaded menopause all is not good, any tips would really be appreciated
Maggie
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adiboo
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Reged: 09/06/2006
Posts: 328
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Hi Maggie and welcome to the forum. I don't have any experience of empty-nesting; that's still some way ahead, but know where you're coming from with the dreaded menopause. This forum is great for support and I'm sure someone will be along soon with some helpful hints for you. In the meantime, there's always something going on here to help pass the time. Why not hop on board our coachtrip (see earlier post) and have a giggle as we head for Blackpool on our virtual night out. The more the merrier.
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jayney45
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Reged: 21/10/2009
Posts: 60
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hi maggie, just have a read of some of my posts, kids not left home yet but they do their own stuff a!nd me and hubby seem to of lost touch with each other. yes, i sit some nights watch him snoring and just think "is this it". try to start to reinvent ur relationship, nights out, lunch out , going for walk etc. as iv found out us ladies have to make the first move and organise our lives. be positiive and try to not dwell on the negative things, it only makes u feel worse. you and o h are now able to go and d just what u want. the world is your oyster!! be happy.
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carsma
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Reged: 13/02/2009
Posts: 3297
Loc: Berks
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Hi Maggie
Welcome to the forum. No tips, just get used to it, well I did, I so missed the kids, but just another stage in ones life.
Can you wake him up and rekindle something, like Janey is trying to do. We just get lost in a mess of kids and need to find one another again....!!!!
Carsma x
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Justina
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Reged: 27/09/2009
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Hi Maggie
Welcome to a very big club in more ways than one. My two are now 24 & 27 - both have been to uni and had gap years and at the moment they are both based back with us so don't look on their departure as a permanent feature as they'll boomerang back during holidays, between jobs and between travels & very few young people can actually afford to buy or save for their own homes so they may be back with you some day for longer than you would like.....
However, the important thing is to now forge your own life - find new interests, get out and get a life outside of the home. There is so much on offer - whether you want to study for a new career (which I did), join a serious or fun choir, learn a language, join a book club or a stitch & bitch group (or start your own). How about one night a week when you do something together - meal out, pub quiz evening or cinema; suggest your husband takes a turn at cooking and let him do a meal once a week. Contact old friends or colleagues and arrange a meet-up. How about some voluntary work - enquire at your nearest volunteer bureau - I know evenings are not the best time but there may be something at the weekend that you could get involved in. Libraries are great sources of info on what's going on.
Please don't waste this opportunity - none of us know what is round the corner and we have to take life by the horns and make the most of it so we have no regrets later on.
Good luck - let us know what you decide to try ..................
Justina
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Foxie
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Reged: 09/08/2007
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I would suggest joining a supperclub, where do you live in the UK? and going to a class once a week to learn something new.
There is always some one on the forum to chat too, any time of the day or night, so log on and get to know us. We often have perties on Friday nights too.
Welcome!
Foxie
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I've learnt that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou.
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angeleena
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Reged: 26/09/2009
Posts: 4
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empty nest very real and just like loosing a job feel redundant and men feel it in other ways sort of shut down, although I didn't see it that way at first.Advice from others is spot on you have to create opportunities for yourself to enjoy and this inturn makes you more interesting and vibrant , I for instance learned ballroom and Latin dancing , had lessons in golf and what might tend to happen is your partner may see you have many more tallents besides the home or work .It does take a little time to set things up and explore what you want to do but it is fun looking at the options. Joining the forum is a good step forward and you never know your partner might sleep a little less wondering what your up to.
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cooljule
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Reged: 20/07/2009
Posts: 194
Loc: Derbyshire
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It's a chance for you and your hubby to remember why you got together in the first place. We miss having our girls at home but are enjoying each others company once more in a way which is far different to what it was during the busy-ness of family life. Important to have interests outside the home but just enjoy being a couple again!
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LindseyG
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Reged: 01/09/2009
Posts: 4
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Hi Maggie. I joined the forum a couple of months ago. My daughter, my youngest had left home to to lwork away. Tomight "s my second time on the forum. I"m watching tv, alone, husband "s asleep on the sofa. We used to live overseas and since being back in Britian I really haven"t made any effort to make new friends. I logged into the forum because I thought I"d see if there is a supper club or something in my area.
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