ladylou
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Reged: 13/06/2008
Posts: 232
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Hello All
Just to let you know how OH is doing with his treatment. He started it on Saturday and has just finished it tonight.
He has had another really bad night which obviously then affects the following day. We have been told that different people respond in varying ways to the treatment, but so far I can see no improvement and he says that he doesn't feel any different. Trying to keep his spirits up is becoming difficult.
I know that it is the illness, but constantly answering the same questions and repeating the same information to him is begining to get me down, and I am very annoyed with myself .
I am seeing the Consultant tomorrow morning and just hope that he can look me in the face after all this time. Thanks to all who replied last week it really cheered me up no end. Any advice anyone can give regarding the best way to deal with a person with memory loss will be more than gratefully recieved.
Ladylou
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sheeco
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Reged: 12/10/2009
Posts: 63
Loc: Hornchurch, Essex
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Hi Ladylou, sounds as though you and OH have had really tough time. My OH had a stroke last year. I dealt with the memory loss by writing everything down and using that as a prompt/reminder, and by taking photos of familiar things. Dont know if that would help you? My thoughts are with you, its hard and would get anyone down.
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scottishmags
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Reged: 24/04/2009
Posts: 1329
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Hi ladylou
I'm sorry that I missed your post last week but I do remember you posting quite some time ago now about your husband's illness, and how concerned you were
I'm sorry that things are so difficult. Please don't be annoyed with yourself; you have no reason to be; be kind to yourself instead ..
My mum suffered short-term memory loss due to Alzheimer's and I remember trying to reassure her and explain everything to her, and by the time I had finished she needed me to go back to the beginning and start again ; however much you love the person it is extremely exhausting and you have all my sympathy
I hope you have someone looking after you a little bit?
All best wishes
Mags
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kitty52
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Reged: 24/10/2009
Posts: 42
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Hi Ladylou,
I do hope your OH's treatment works - maybe it takes a little time for any noticeable effect to show? My elderly mother suffers from memory loss, and as already mentioned by Sheeco, the best way to deal with any resulting confusion is to write everything down so that it can be referred back to.
I hope things start to improve for you - remember to take care of yourself as well.
Kitty x
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Vinca
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Reged: 19/10/2008
Posts: 2410
Loc: Kent
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Hi Ladylou,
I'm sorry to hear your OH doesn't feel his treatment has made any difference. I hope his consultant can offer some constructive help.
Of course you will get annoyed - you cannot possibly sustain that level of patience without it getting to you from time to time. It sounds as if you are doing all you can to help your OH, but as Kitty says you should also try and get some support for you. Is there a day centre your OH could visit? Your GP and/or Social Services should be able to advise you. Even if you only have one morning a week at home on your own it will give you a break.
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ladylou
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Reged: 13/06/2008
Posts: 232
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Thanks for the advice girls, I dont think that I will be able to get him to try a day centre as he is only 56 and has always said that he felt sorry for those who found themselves at one. He equates them with old age unfortunately. I have left him with pen and notebook and told him to write questions etc down as he thinks of them. I checked the book this evening and it is totally empty. In for the long haul I think. Still tomorrow is another day and hopefully a better one.
Ladylou
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Kezabel
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Reged: 11/03/2009
Posts: 2626
Loc: Round the Bend
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Hello ladylou
Hope things went well with the consultant this morning.
Kez x
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Scarlets
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Reged: 01/04/2007
Posts: 1889
Loc: Just across the pond
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lET US KNOW WHAT THE CONSULTANT TOLD YOU.
I FIND THAT I AM FORGETTING ALL SORTS OF THINGS. IF I AM AWAKE AT NIGHT I WAKE OH TO ASK HIME ABOUT THIS AND THAT. SOMETHING I CANT REMEMBER.
Try and get some support. There mus tbe something in your local area.
Chin up.
Big hugs are coming your way.
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