skybluepink
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Reged: 16/06/2009
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Hello everyone this is my first so hello! i will introduce next time i come on here.
I am in my fifties and get really frustrated that i can't find a good hairdresser who gives you a cut that goes with your hair - mine is thick and kinky with a tendency to stick out.
I'm fairly new to the area and am finding it really hard to get a good hairdresser
I don't want the latest style or lots of styling that once i wash it i can't get to look like it was.
you know that feeling of going to a hairdresser full of hope and gradually as you watch them doing your hair you get depressed and wish you'd never gone to them - well i get that too often.
i don't want a head massage and herb tea i just want a cut that i like 
Edited by skybluepink (16/06/2009 09:20)
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Loo
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Reged: 09/01/2008
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I'm with you on the head massage and tea!
If I wanted a drink I would have gone to a cafe. I went to a hairdresser - yes for a haircut not a drink.
I have found one I quite like now.
Loo
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This is me, with Andy Pandy and Teddy.
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Bizibee
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Reged: 25/03/2009
Posts: 613
Loc: North Wales
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Hi Skybluepink!
Firstly I would like to say Hi and welcome.
Secondly about the haircut. Over the years (I am 62 now) I must have spent a fortune on hairdressers and less than a quarter of the haircuts have been successful. Particularly the blow drying. I hate having what they now call 'Products' on my hair as they only flatten my hair and as soon as I step outside the hairdressers door, my hair is flat to my head. These days I flatly ( pardon the pun) refuse to have 'Products' at all. I have now found a hairdresser who cuts and blows mine for £12 and I colour it myself a light beige blonde. I have it cut and styled like Fern Briton has hers at the moment and I am delighted with it.
Best of luck with finding a good hairdresser - as my old Mum would say, they are as scarce as hen's teeth.
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scottishmags
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Reged: 24/04/2009
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Hi and welcome to the forum
I would approach any lady locally with similar type hair to yours, that looks well cut, and compliment them and ask where they go. I haven't done this with hair but I've done it with shoes and boots!! The same principle applies...
Mags
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WoodyM
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Reged: 01/04/2009
Posts: 675
Loc: Cheshire
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Hi, I agree with the other comments. I had the same problem as you and over the years have spent time and money in good hairdressers only to come home and put my head under the tap!! However earlier this year my daughter took me in hand and insisted I go to her hairdresser, because I needed someone with 'imagination'. I was terrified, but came out with a lovely new hairstyle (the Fern Britton one!) and have been going every 4 weeks since then. I colour my grey roots myself as I am not confident to have him do them, although my daughters hair always looks lovely. A small point but I always go on Tuesday morning as I am the only one there and I tried a Saturday and it was chaos. Get a recommendation, go a few times and don't expect them to be mind readers.
Happy hairdo..... 
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valley
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Reged: 12/05/2008
Posts: 140
Loc: Lancashire
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Hi skybluepink
Welcome to the forum.
I know what you mean, I used to use the same mobile hairdresser for about 29 yearsa and then went with her to her own salon until about 3 years ago, it was in a different town so too far to keep going.
Since then been a bit scared but tried a few different places. They seem to do it how they want it, had it cut too short last year, took ages to grow back. My hair is thick, but fine and always seems to go it's own way.
Didn't dare go for about 4 months until built up courage to go somewhere else. But now still trying to find somewhere, tried a new salon in the town where I work, did not like the way they had it cut it at first , as only wanted a trim but short again!! but quite like it now so feel I may go back to the same place again.
valley
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Dormouse
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Reged: 04/05/2009
Posts: 371
Loc: Scotland
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SBP I did what Mags suggested and I approached a lassie who had an amazing haircut. I went to the recommended hairdresser and she was brilliant.
Unfortunately though I found the hairdressers constant moodiness very depressing and I am now trialling a new hairdresser on Thursday.
Dormouse
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devondumpling
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Reged: 10/02/2009
Posts: 470
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A tip I was given years ago was, when you do get a haircut you like, take a photo or two to keep in case you can't see the same hairdresser again. You can then show the new hairdresser exactly what you want. And as it's you in the photo, not a model, they should, if any good, be able to copy the style.
Good luck with your search.
DDx
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Bizibee
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Reged: 25/03/2009
Posts: 613
Loc: North Wales
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Hi Devondumpling. I tried the photo thing once when curly perms were the rage. I took a photo of Barbra Streisand in and asked the hairdresser to make me look like her - so she hit me on the nose with a big brush !!!
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gigi
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Reged: 12/04/2008
Posts: 2473
Loc: Hampshire
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BB lol, if only they were all that honest.
I have the same problem, I don't want a bob and def don't want the obligatory over 45 short back and sides. A local salon has a window advert for highlights models needed so I have made an appointment. The young girl who is going to do it was very thorough with her ideas for what shades would suit me. I'll risk a colour, I can hide it with another if it's not making me happy. If they make a good job of it I will go a few more times to see how they style and blow dry my hair, which is fine and shoulder length, and has a very odd double crown. Then and only then will I trust a cut and style.
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Foxie
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Hi Skybluepink and welcome to the forum.
Foxie
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I've learnt that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou.
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skybluepink
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Reged: 16/06/2009
Posts: 2
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hi again, and thanks for your stories and advice - its good to know that i am not alone in my "hair plight"
I had a chat with a colleague yesterday - who (incidentally) does mobile hairdressing too and i have always liked how she does her hair. She had a few ideas for my hair and also suggested some hair salons for me to look at - i'm thinking of letting her do my hair - she know me and what i'm like. My only worry is what to do if i don't like it, as i see her most days at work - i'll have a chat about this with her i think.
We could start a thread about all the bad hairdressers we've experienced and the craziest things they do eg head massage and herb teas, "treatments" that cost a fortune but they keep quiet about what's in them and what they are for, etc etc
x
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WoodyM
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Reged: 01/04/2009
Posts: 675
Loc: Cheshire
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I wouldn't get your colleague to do your hair, fraught with problems if you don't like it!! Just explain she might feel the same.
Actually my hairdresser gives a head massage after washing and I love it. Mine is very good and doesnt try to make you buy those horribly expensive products the have on show, or have any products on your hair if you dont want them. I am terrified of the hairdressers and I have told him so !! 
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Scarlets
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Reged: 01/04/2007
Posts: 1889
Loc: Just across the pond
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Welcome to the Forum
I know exactly what you mean about hairdressers. Many years ago I used to go to a very nice young man who always told me that there was no need for perming, setting, blow drying or any products. As long as you had a really good cut.
He was so right.
But try and find one now.
I colour my own hair too.I use L'oreal Natural light blonde. Once a month I go to have a cut and blow dry. AS you say it is flat by the time I get home and I am not expert enough to give myself a good blow dry unless I spent ages doing it.
When I just want to tidy it up, I use my straighteners.
No excuse really. I am retired and have plenty of time.
Hope you find someone soon.
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snippinlyn
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Reged: 30/06/2009
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hi there as you can guess by my name i,m a hairdresser!!deary me!!!this is my first post,i agree all you need is a good cut!i am a'mature' hairdresser a disappearing breed??i think.so i agree with all of you!i still work 3 days a week and would love to cut all of your hair!!i hate goin to some salons myself and comin out with i style i dont want!!some salons train you just to do the late'ist style which does not suit every one,you have to look at the 'whole person',and adapt style to suit, hair type, face shape, life style,good luck finding a new hairdresser! lyn from northamptonshire x 
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Foxie
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Reged: 09/08/2007
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I'm with Woody on this one. It is always best not to have a friend or someone you see regularly cut your hair. There is bound to be a time when you want to change hairdressers and it is so awkward!
Foxie
(one who has been there!!)
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I've learnt that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou.
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Anneh1957
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Reged: 25/04/2007
Posts: 59
Loc: New Malden, Surrey
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Haven't been on the forums for a while but I'm so upset about my latest hairdressing 'experience' that I thought I'd add my comments and ask for advice!
I had to change hairdressers a year or so ago as my hairdresser left the area, I've tried a couple of Toni & Guy salons and while one was quite good, I really couldn't afford to keep going there as I need a colour touch-up every 6 weeks and they do a very hard sell to have hilites every other time, which took the price to £140!
So I decided to try a local independent salon, which was half the price. My hair is short and layered, but I'd like to grow it a bit, however, she cut more off than I expected, said it was because my previous hairdresser had 'made a mess of it'. I didn't think that was true, but I let it go as it didn't look too bad, just shorter than I wanted. I had a colour and half head hilites, the colour was OK but the hilites stopped at the end of the first layer, half way down my head, so I effectively had two-tone hair, and as my hair is quite dark brown I thought it looked odd, and my husband hated it. I asked if she could just blend a few hilites into the bottom half of the hair to break up the colour (as Toni & Guy did successfully) but she said it was too short and I'd end up with 'tiger stripes'. I don't understand this but she was quite adamant about it. Can anyone explain this to me please??
Anyway, unwisely as it turned out, I went back this week, 6 weeks later, for a colour touch-up and another trim, and again it's much too short, but this has to be the worst cut I've ever had. It just looks like someone has attacked my hair with a pair of shears, the layers are uneven, don't blend in at all and are so short. The hilites now look so unnatural I'm thinking about buying a hair colour and getting rid of them, but I've never used a home colour before so I'm quite nervous! Is it OK to colour again soon after it's been done? How do I choose the right colour?
Needless to say I'm now on the hunt for a new hairdresser (Kingston-on-Thames area, any suggestions that won't break the bank?). Perhaps if I can perfect the home colour I can just spend the money on a good cut. Don't fancy doing hilites at home, but I suppose I can live without them! 
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