BEL
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Chilla,yes I am certain you would get on well with
Mollymandy...enjoy her honesty,stright talk...no bull
shi--ing around,fun lady to meet up with.No Mollymandy
would never described you as a pussy cat....more minxie!!!!
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Bobo
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Reged: 13/11/2008
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What Suzie said is how I think we would all love to be, just wish it was that easy. Me I fluctuate between caring and not caring. Most of my life I have had an overiding need to be liked and yet have always been an outsider (put both of these things down to being adopted -very happily, but it brings it's own problems). As I got older I realised I was an outsider for good reasons because I actually had nothing in common with those I had been trying to impress. I'm fairly eccentric and speak my mind. It's hard going on to descrieb myslef as it sounds arrogant and I don't mean it to, so I'm just repeating what a friend said recently when I asked the same question and asked her to be straight with me. Her opinion was that as I was tall, slim, didn't look my age and dressed well I would annoy some women (school mainly). When she first came to my house she said she was intimidated by teh books on teh shelves and worried how I woudl see her as she had only 1 O'level. Then reminded herself that I had never revealed this about myself, so it was just her opinion. My OH saw an aloof woman when he first saw me in a staff meeting. This comes from being 6ft 1" so pretty impossible to hide and blend in even when you're feeling a bit shy - so teh face probably goes into aloof mood with no choice. We all have barriers of some sort.
Think my general point is that however much I care I can't change me or the bits about my life that others take to make up their opinions of me. I just have to accept it and hope that those I call my friends have a good opinion of me. On the whole I know they do and sometimes I think they see a better person than I do. However, don't know how I come across on here, couldn't guess at that one.
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Mollymandy
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Bel and Chilla.... thanks so much - feel a bit backed into a corner so am going off to sulk for a bit...lol 
Minxie eh! OH used to call me that when we first met 
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Sweet_Pea
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I agree Bobo. It's difficult not to care what people think of you. We all seek approval. I also care and know that I don't always give a great first impression. I am someone that people tend to warm to when they get to know me - and that takes time. However, I like this quote from Dr Suess
'Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind'.
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xxxSummerxxx
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Reged: 29/03/2008
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Loc: Billericay,Essex
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Bobo,you are a wise Lady.
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Bobo
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Reged: 13/11/2008
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Good quote Sweetpea. Thank you Summer I am bowing in a virtual way.
I read a great quote the other day on a blog called mousenotebook. It said along teh lines of "make sure that you are in everything you do and make so that everything is a true reflection of who you are." Completely wrong, but that's teh gist of it. I design and make for a living now so took that as my line for this year. No longer going to make things that fit others taste, but stay true to my own because I know I have a great sense of design. So there. Now bowing with my tongue out. This is a good look.
Bobo
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oliveoil
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Loc: sw france
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hi summer cant say i have given it any thought,when i was younger i used to worry how people saw me,but now i really dont care sounds awful i know, but its how i feel about myself thats important to me now,i try to be a good person,and if i can help someone i gladly will,i could not sleep if i done wrong by anyone,and if i ever, unintentionally hurt, or upset anybody, i feel really bad, and will aways quickly say sorry. I dont suffer fools easily though, dislike people who think the world owes them a living,find to hard to understand people who constantly moan,i find the people who have the right to moan never do and simple make the most of life inspite of their difficulties,those people i admire. Cant spend much time with people that are so selfish and materialistic, racist,vulgar,uncaring.i could go on but i wont.
sorry think i;v gone on a bit there,but back to your question no i dont worry about it.
love oliveoil
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chilla
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I think it's a good thing to care to some degree about what other people think. I don't mean that you should subsume your personality to fit, rather that sometimes it's part of society that we present a way of being in order to make it easier to interact with various situations and people whose thoughts, attitudes, customs are different to ours. It's when you spend your time with friends and family denying your true self that huge problems occur.
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Snowy1066
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Totally agree with Bel and Suzie, I don't much worry how others see me or percieve me, not everyone will like me, and being a realist I accept that. I don't like everyone I meet in life either. I just hope to come across as a reasonably, polite, decent, human being.
Thats a very good sentence Bel "too much introspection on self is very negative".
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Sue_Scripture
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How do I think others see me? By using their eyes (boom boom) and God, I'm utterly gorgeous (as you know). XXX
I would like me as a friend and I think that's enough. (Hope so).
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Ashbee
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If I say I don't care what people think I'd be lying but at my age, I've earned the right to be true to myself. I don't go out of my way to upset anyone and I won't be rude or obnoxious but people make their own judgements, good or bad. In my experience, it's my intelligence (not my looks) that unsettles people most but I won't apologise for having a brain. However, it does explain why I can't post a thread that's less than a zillion words long - sorry!!!
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cupcake
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Hi summs!
I think people often used to see me as standoffish and snooty when I was younger, I hope it happens less often now.
I think it is because I am quiet and reticent that I can come across as being aloof but as I've got older I've learnt to cover it up better.
I'm actually warm hearted and friendly, just a bit shy. 
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xxxSummerxxx
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Cuppy ,When we met at Covent Garden in December you certainly didnt come accross as Standoffish and Snooty.
You came across as warm and chatty ,i wish you could have stayed longer !
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cupcake
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Thanks summer! I wish I could have stayed longer as well but there will be other times hopefully.
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Twiddledout
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I'm just like Cuppy - I think I come across as aloof in real life but it's not that I'm aloof at all, I just have a hard time making friends as I have pretty low self-esteem.
Despite that, I'm quick-witted and articulate and that may be off-putting to some so I try to keep my head down and it comes across as standoffish.
DH just calls me quirky and when we first met he said I was all p*ss and vinegar. I told him to shape up or ship out. Nice!
Blimey, first my photo now my innermost thoughts, you lot know how to get under someone's skin don't you? 
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xxxSummerxxx
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Reged: 29/03/2008
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Loc: Billericay,Essex
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Mrs T, Did i miss your Photo??
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Twiddledout
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It's on the 'describe yourself' thread from yesterday. You were posting on it I think 
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xxxSummerxxx
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Reged: 29/03/2008
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Loc: Billericay,Essex
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O sugar must have missed u,be back in a mo! LOL
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Twiddledout
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I'll wait, nothing else to do LOL
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xxxSummerxxx
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Loc: Billericay,Essex
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Boo!
You look nothing like i imagined you Mrs T,You are younger and prettier than i expected!!Thats it you can def come round and give me some advice re the blooming house work! Hope you like Dogs! LOL
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