greenmouth
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Reged: 28/08/2008
Posts: 22
Loc: Northampton
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Not so much me but my OH.
He only stays with me at the weekend for two nights, but he seems to have trouble sleeping. He was really restless last week, and was figeting which then woke me up.
I understand him when he says that its because its not his bed, but I would like him to rest easily when hes at mine for the short time.
Is there anything we can do for him to get a good nights sleep? Theres nothing worse than being tired when youre trying to spend some quality time together!
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They say the devil's water, It ain't so sweet
You dont have to drink right now
But you can dip your feet, Every once in a little while
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kateclark22
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Reged: 14/07/2008
Posts: 83
Loc: Norfolk
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Hi Greenmouth,
Oh it is so horrible when you can't sleep. I seem to be able to function quite well on an average of 5 hours a night though. My problem is my OH likes to do impressions of pigs from 1am onwards. I presume your OH lives else where during the week. perhaps if he had the same pillows as at his home or is your place too light or dark at night? small things really affect my sleep he may be the same.
There is the old fail safe of smacking him over the head with a frying pan! he will definitely get a few hours then, I know I'm being silly but when my OH starts oinking at 1am that thought always makes me smile.
Seriously, you could talk to him about whether some thing specific is disturbing him or is there some thing on his mind. Nytol are quite good but I wouldn'r recommend using them all the time. Does he sleep ok when he is not with you? If so it may well be some thing environmental.
Sorry not much help, hope you find a solution
Kate x
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greenmouth
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Reged: 28/08/2008
Posts: 22
Loc: Northampton
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Hi Kate, thanks for your reply.
Yes he does sleep elsewhere in the week, he still lives at home with his parents so is not used to sharing a bed during the week (neither am I actually just to add!).
I dont think he sleeps particularly well when at home either, but better than when he is at mine.
Im going to ask him if theres anything I can do to make it better for him. I have suggested we swap sides to see if that makes any difference.
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They say the devil's water, It ain't so sweet
You dont have to drink right now
But you can dip your feet, Every once in a little while
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jessie_1
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Reged: 07/03/2006
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Hi Greenmouth
My Oh and I had this problems for years, (we got married in 1982) I used to wake up in the night with him sitting up in bed reading etc..
Then earlier this year we decided to try seperate beds and bedrooms, although I was upset at first it has been a blessing because I sleep right through the night now and I feel restful.
I'm not sure what the answer is for you, but have you tried Lavender under his pillow, or apparently you can buy a lavender pillow.
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Secret
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Reged: 02/10/2008
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Your just gonna have to have mad crazy sex 5 tims in a row, that'll do the job.. 
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wispa
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Reged: 16/01/2008
Posts: 1943
Loc: Suffolk,
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Okay, you can laugh, but..
I've had trouble sleeping for years, and OH snores.
A couple of months ago I decided to sleep upside down, and since then I haven't had a bad nights sleep, and OH's snoring doesn't worry me.
Since then, I've found a few other couples who do the same
..wispa
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LadyGodiva
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Reged: 19/09/2006
Posts: 277
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you could try a mallet! (LOL)
seriously though does he snore? may be he has sleep apnoea or some kind of faulty sleep mechanism which can be diagnosed and corrected. If he has the same problem when he is at home it seems it's not likely that it is sleeping with a partner or your bed. His GP could refer him to a sleep clinic on the NHS or privately and they will advise
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suzie88
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Reged: 02/09/2008
Posts: 223
Loc: Essex
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Ha Ha
I couldn`t sleep upside down, his feet pong a bit and there is a chance he might kick me in the face, if my OH snores too much I go in the spare room and have a lovely quiet night`s sleep.
Suzie88
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OzzieKez
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Reged: 21/06/2008
Posts: 1902
Loc: Queensland, Australia
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The upside down thing works for me too, Wispa!
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hilary_in_spain
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Reged: 04/08/2007
Posts: 49
Loc: Alicante province, SPAIN
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Lavender is a good idea. You can either use the essential oil in a light ring, which is a metal ring which you rest on the light bulb and before you switch it on put 4-6 drops of lavender essential oil in it. Lavender is a really relaxing oil. but if he suffers from a busy mind ie he can't relax his mind when he tries to sleep and is thinking of what he is going to do the next day or what he did the previous day, he should try Sandalwood in the blend as well. 3 drops of sandalwood and 3 of Lavender. Put the oil in, switch the light on 20 mins before bedtime and keep the door closed.If you can't get a ring, put the oils, 1 of each in some body lotion and massage into chest and neck. Also ensure he is not playing computer games or doing Sudoku prior to bedtime. Cut down on the alcohol and perhaps try a milky drink, but no coffee.
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goodgrace
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Reged: 12/10/2008
Posts: 3
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Dear Greenmouth
Isn't this the story of a woman's life. When it's not a man keeping you awake, it is a child or PMT or menopause symptoms.
First off, make sure he has no alcohol when he is staying with you nor a heavy meal. My OH can sleep like a baby but is dreadful if he as had a couple of beers.
The only other fail safe I know is really good earplugs. I buy those soft foamy ones from Boots and although they don't block out all sound and can't protect you against movement, they seem to have the effect of cocooning you in your own world.
Hope these suggestions are of some help. My OH who is of a philosophical bent always maintains that men and women were never intended to live together but live in the mens and womens huts in the intervals between the mood taking!
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